Hey guys, just looking for some texting advice, I've screwed up a lot in the past with texting and girls that seemed to love me in person I never got past getting them out on a date after I got the digits. I'd just like to fix it so it doesn't happen again.

Just got a girls number at the mall, overheard another guy asking her out and she directed him to her facebook. I go up and say I don't want to join the bandwagon but lets hangout sometime and got the number without any mention of facebook but I'm not a PUA, and I got a little nervous at the end and just ditched out pretty quick afterwards.

I have complete confidence in myself if I can get her out on a date with me, but almost none when it comes to texting her tomorrow asking for that. I just need some quick tips and I'll be golden!

My idea right now is "Hey (name), it's (name)" and then maybe something like "To be honest I don't usually get that nervous buying shirts, but in all fairness, it IS a pretty awesome shirt." or just "whats up?"

Or should I go right into asking if she wants to meetup tomorrow?

Yes do that, ask her out.

90% of it boils down to the impression you made in the initial interaction. Guys tend to overthink texting, until they realise it's not that important (especially for the initial meet)

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Didn't turn out too well, I sent a basic "Whats up ####, it's ####" and she didn't respond. She's really artsy and I had a really good "latte art" conversation ready, plus most girls love coffee. Text her about seven hours later saying "Hey this is #### right?", which she replied she was at work, asked if we could chat when she gets off and never got a responce.

I know this is weird but I've seen her facebook, we have way too much in common and she's easily a 9/10. I just need one date to win her over... Any tips? Hell, I'd even buy a lunch for the guy that gives me a winning answer if there is such a thing.

After much experimentation, I've realised that texting a girl off of a cold approach WITHOUT building enough comfort will not work 9/10 times.

In other words, unless you've spent a SIGNIFICANT amount of time (1 hour+) with her, built comfort and emotional bonding, then she may give you one or two answers, then drop off the face of the earth. The rare instances where this does work is if you've created such an indelible impression that she's extremely intrigued by you.

At this moment, she simply doesn't know you well enough to trust you, and she doesn't feel comfortable actually speaking with you. She may have been having fun with you in the moment, but once that moment has passed she is no longer in the same state. You're just another weirdo showing too much interest who she doesn't know well enough to meet up.

For a cold approach, it may actually be a BETTER idea to get her facebook, like a couple of pictures at first, comment on a few pictures later, then start up a convo after.

Did some reading around the forum and figured out I'm just over thinking. Going to ask if she wants to grab some coffee after valentines day is over. Not too sure what else I can do at this point if you're right.