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so i tried to avoid being desperate and got her facebook and number
Translation, you're being a pussy and indirectly staying in touch with her
By revealing your hand by saying, 'Hey, I find you attractive, can I take you for a drink sometime?' means you will filter the girls that are interested from the ones that are not. Getting Facebooks is a friendly and innocent thing to do. But that is the problem isn't it? - you don't want friendship, you want her in romantic ways so therefore you will need to ask her in a more romantic intentional manor.
What do you do now?
Message her on Facebook, make sure she is into the conversation and not just one word answering you, add some flirty game stuff into it (there is plenty of material around the forum and Google) and when you sense she into you, ask her out
directly.
Don't be afraid of showing your intentions.
I would rather get one solid phone number from 1 girls out of 4 by being bold and upfront with my intentions.
You: Hey, you seem very cool, I would like to get to know you, how about a drink sometime?
Girl 1: No thanks, I have a bf
Girl 2: No thanks, you're not my type
Girl 3: No thanks, i'm into my career
Girl 4: Sure, why not
If there were 4 girls and I befriended them and got ALL their phone numbers indirectly, you're more likely to be wasting your time with all 4 friendship closes
You: Hey, do you have Facebook?
Girl 1: Yes, my name is Sarah bla
Girl 2: Yes, my name is Stacey bla
Girl 3: Yes, my name is Steph bla
Girl 4: Yes, my name is Sandra bla
Which 'close' will give you the most chance to get a date?