Hey guys,

So ive been a watcher on this forum off and on for a while now but I thought id make a post regarding my current situation.

Slight back-story about me being that ive never had any problems thus far with chatting to girls, getting through attraction and what not, its when ive reached the finish line if you will that I sense myself going back to being a somewhat full on person.

My situation is as follows.

Ive known a girl that's quite some distance away from me, shes into me, im into her. Its all good in majority however recently we had a deep ass conversation about opening up to one another, her not being afraid of showing affection etc and me being pretty direct im fine with it all. Its great lately, pure honesty no pissing about with the whole "well i did want to msg you but i thought I was being clingy" I always entice her to just be honest with herself, if she wants to spam, spam, you know the drill.

Right so my issue is that I seem to fill the gaps at times. Like if she is being "meh" rarely does it happen but if so I find myself putting forward the emotion to entice her in and I dont like it at times. I feel like im going full on when I dont need to be, because I know I have her, but I still do it, its stupid and it bugs the shit out of me. I feel like considering the stage we are at, silly games of being slow to reply are just petty. She sees me as this great guy, which is good of course yet I feel that in some respects its biting me in the ass. She sees me as too good for her and im thinking if its holding her back.

Effectively im just asking thoughts on the topic. If you had a girl that is borderline obsessed with you (in a good way) at times and has been for months, yet you are far away, what would you do to keep continuous interest. Im not struggling because ive kept it this far with no problems but id just like to chat with people about it.

Note: If this is in the wrong section my apologies. I posted in the relationship section because the attraction is there, shes mentioned dating, we effectively are its just shes miles away. We havent met yet but thats soon, she had anxiety so i just laid off for a bit.

Thanks guys,

Also dont shy away from telling me how it is.

Much love xxxxxxxxxxx

The rules are at the top of this forum... And yes, it's in the wrong spot

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1. Posts about how to get a girlfriend will result in a ban.
2. Posts about your ex-girlfriend will result in a ban.
3. Any other posts not related to your current girlfriend will result in a ban.

I'll move it.

I really don't understand what you are asking here. It looks like you already have her devotion. You want her following you like at a cult follower level or something? Off the top of my head you could google "how to form a cult". I'm sure there are 10 step articles written on the subject. or learn some nlp pseudoscience and try to use that to brainwash her.

To keep her interest just do what's been working already and stay secure in yourself. If you send a text and she doesn't get back to you right away, just mirror her response time. She takes an hour, you take an hour, she takes a day, you take a day, she responds immediately...you get the point.

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Ill pass on how to form a cult but thanks for the tips mate haha. What I was looking for is just other peoples opinions on the topic, the point where you stated about staying secure in yourself onwards was what I was looking for, thanks bud

Ah, me being a moron then, many thanks