I had the revelation while driving to work, of all things. I am a scientific and philosophical thinker in that my philosophies are based in science.

I used to think women were these lazy princesses that even if they liked a guy in a bar, wouldn't get off the chair when she could have 100 other guys at any bar just come to her instead...That kind of thing tied in with my understanding of women at the time- they wanted equality, but wouldn't really lift a finger if they could get by any other way, wouldn't take responsibility.

I thought they had this huge character flaw in social situations, and it influenced my interpretation of other things to do with women.

But I understand now...when a woman rubs her hands all over her body and feels desired, its not like a man feeling good that he's desired, its more visceral. Its like they feel these ghost hands on them that they trace, or dopamine secretions all over various nerve endings. I realized that being desired and touched by a man that matches her evolutionary/instinctual checklist is a woman's dopamine trigger.

I used to ask, (and some women do) if she is so interested, why do I have to be the one to approach? Because its in her neurochemistry and the relating reward system in the center of the brain to be the pursued. To give you a picture, eating and sex gives us all dopamine secretions from the brain- its how we living beings are incentivized to do the basic survival things more than just to escape the pain of being eaten.

Feeling incoming desire and receiving touch are these triggers for her dopamine secretions in the realm of reproduction and sex. And it all ties into escalating with touch and other various pickup things. You can't fault a woman to follow this incentive anymore than you can fault an animal for eating!

I'll need to do more thinking and research into how other things tie into this understanding...but now I'll be well on my way to losing my virginity (I think).

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I'm Rod Green from Marketing. Actually, I'm not. You're dreaming as of this very second.

Yep I used to feel the same way "why are things the way they are." They just are as you have correctly surmised. So play within the framework of how things are. The opposite would be a bit boring anyway.

Man needs to pursue and woman needs to receive. It's the way of the world.

Now get out there and talk to some women and just enjoy in the moment. Drop the theory and feel the one-ness as you lock eyes with that cute girl you see across the room and approach.

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I'm Rod Green from Marketing. Actually, I'm not. You're dreaming as of this very second.

Hold her hand for a lot longer when she shakes hands with you to turbocharge her dopamine and oxytocin secretions as you look deep into her eyes with sexual desire. When she gets close, covertly rub your elbow on her nipple for exponential dopamine and oxytocin secretions from her end.

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Approach. Open. Escalate. Isolate

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and then tap her on the pussy from behind AMIRITE!!!!?!?!?!?

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I'm Rod Green from Marketing. Actually, I'm not. You're dreaming as of this very second.

There's also a huge cultural/social component to this. A girl might actually _want_ to approach, but be afraid that her friends will think she's a slut for doing so... or that the guy she approaches is stuck on old social mores that say he should do the approaching.

Add to this the fact that almost every woman is utterly terrified of rejection, and there you go.

Interesting...and I would have torn this to pieces before my revelation...that they subject males to rejection constantly but sit there on their stool, afraid to death of rejection...rung as the highest hypocrisy to me

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I'm Rod Green from Marketing. Actually, I'm not. You're dreaming as of this very second.

And it's not their fault that they subject males to rejection. The world is in some ways a template matrix and they are simply feeding back to the guy that what he's doing or who he is is not working for them at that moment in time, forcing the guy to either modify himself or his approach to future women or to keep doing what he is doing and keep running into brick wall after brick wall.

When you sit back and look at is as you have done, you realize that we have it pretty damn good: We get to choose which girls to make our presentations to. All they can do is sit and wait. Sometimes the ideal guy they want NEVER shows up. Ever.

It will be very difficult for you to build rapport (and eventually get laid) when you have this mindset. Women can sense it when you hate them.

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Approach. Open. Escalate. Isolate

Here are my two essential rules on texting that will save you tons of time and money:

general-questions/topic137931.html

I would say that women have insecurities and are waiting to be approached by guys who make them feel secure.

Think of Lions and the term "fairer sex".

Women want strong men not pussies.

These men dominate the conversation and lead the woman into the bedroom phase.

That's it.

However, I would add that the winning males are well groomed and made sure they look "fit" as well as having the "chat".

KISS (Keep it simple stupid) is the one phrase that applies to this issue otherwise a woman might end up yawning before the date has been established.

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First, thanks for the replies, guys.

I've been binge-reading years of articles from therationalmale.com since this revelation, and it is very refreshing to read about the incongruities I had been seeing from the established societal narrative. It has also educated me even more about women.

I never actually felt hate when trying to talk to women- I'm unsure of what underlying thing is going on underneath besides the want of sex...maybe expectation of something to go awry, or inability to really talk because I'm expecting some kind of bullshit in response (verbal or non-verbal). Maybe its disdain.

The weird thing is, even as I type this, the fact that it took effort to dig all this out makes it seem like it was an underlying tone that I wasn't even aware of.

Regarding wanting dominant males (lions), I wanted to pose a question...I think I am not alone in having an inner reserve for aggression and Machiavellian tendency...I have used the metaphor of a caged beast. Would this be considered an inherent alpha trapped in a conditioned psyche? Or is it some evil side? Not that I would do any real harm...maybe sort of diabolical without being evil? Sort of an enjoyed "No More Mr. Nice Guy" phase with almost cackling confidence...

Do any of you think you have this reserve? Like what you feel when you talk about what you would do to anyone messing with your family, the way you talk and think changes as you speak of it...

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I'm Rod Green from Marketing. Actually, I'm not. You're dreaming as of this very second.