I go in there, full steam ahead. Deeply motivated.

Place : Bar in the middle, techno/pop music with high volume. Relatively small dance floor. Some tables and chair there and there.

I felt like working the whole fucking night. Dancing was working, talking was working. I had too push myself every fucking second. Actually it felt worse than work, because at least at work I don't have too push myself so hard to do the things.

I received no respect from anybody. I would talk to some guys because he was my friend brother and he would barely look at me. When it was 3 am I left and would pat him on the arm to say good bye and he ignored me, so I pushed harder and he kept ignoring me. While I was dancing, some guy came to me and said ''yeah, you trying hard, go try hit her'' *points some hot girl* I'm thinking like ''am I that fucking obvious, why can't I look like i'm not there just to have a good time?...'' anyway, i still go see that hot girl because she's a hot girl and in seconds she politely rejects my hands and keep on dancing.

I received a lot of girl looking at me for .2 second and then touching their hair. That's what I received the most, touching hair. 95% of the girl, even some that looked relatively interested in my dancing, were just turning their back too me. I have NO idea what it means and I have no fucking clue what do do from there. Do I just fucking go grab he shoulder (mmh... no that's weak)... do I just fucking grab her (mmh not sure, might be too much, she will think shes being raped by an unknown)

Well that's pretty much it.

Overall, received no respect from anybody, even the guys.
Everytime some girl would talk too me, my mind went total blank, had nothing to say.
Did not knew what to do with girls dancing their back too me.
Didn't knew how to ask a girl too dance.
Didn't knew how to physically approach a girl that's dancing.
Didn't knew what to do when she was dancing her back turned too me, sometimes looking at me and touching her hair.

Results = None
Cryed about an hour after that, just thinking how bad I am and how long this fucking road is.

My friend. I'm about to blow your mind, but I need a little more information about you.
What would you say your porn/masturbation habits are?
Weird question but consider it and get back to me

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"A man is the sum of his actions."

Usualy I masturbate 2-5 times a day too hentai, futanari animes, asian womens, cosplay, big boobs and models taking big cocks. If I do it without porn I usualy go in my head with mad fantasy like dark elves, princess, nymphs, etc.

Im being honest and humble about my problems into getting real life pleasures that does not involve drugs and lazyness anymore, please blow my mind!

I also like to go roleplay in Neverwinter Nights servers, in dedicated server that allows you too create a character and perfom live roleplay trough typing and emotes. I usualy create a female elf or pixie and get some lesbian love story going on, that turns me on too masturbate. I like roleplay with a men, specialy the sex part but I feel the mens I create are less attractive and charismatic and getting stories going is harder because playing a man stifolds me.

I'm about to change your life in the same way that my life was changed a year or so ago. I was introduced to "Nofap" about 15 months ago and I can't express how satisfied I am with the results. Your problem WITHOUT A DOUBT IN MY MIND is your porn and masturbation addiction. It leaves you dry like a raisin; mentally and emotionally. The dopamine receptors in your brain are constantly being overloaded with diverse genres of porn and you have cemented your reward system to only kick in through hardcore material.

All you have to do is STOP. COLD TURKEY. NO VIDS. NO CLIPS. NO FAPPING. NO PICS. NO SEXY LITERATURE. NOTHING. Go on week long streaks.

The results are as follows & much more

#1. Confidence (huge boost in feelings of self worth)
#2. Energy and motivation
#3. NO anxiety or depression (symptoms will slowly diminish)
#4. More commanding and deep voice
#5. HUGE boost in motivation to interact with beautiful women

I've just hit the tip of the iceberg and I will not invest more of my time into explaining something that some people dismiss right off the bat. Give it a try. You WILL fail. MANY MANY times. It will be the hardest challenge you will ever face but the benefits will change you. They will make you the man you always wanted to be.

Have faith and ask me any questions you want. There are many support groups online. This is my favorite:
http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/

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Paul

"A man is the sum of his actions."

I know what its like to help some people in general. But its me fuck, the guy that knows he hates himself and his life. That hates looking the mirror even if some beautiful girl thinks im cute. As a general rule im here too listen and apply theories because I just want to love something and myself. It freaks me out to miss every opportunities I have been given. What really freaks me out the most is that im litteraly missing out on life. I am sooooo lucky to be conscious, so lucky to be alive but everyday is aleays goong trought the pain going trough the motions. I'm just willing to do whatever it takes to turn the wind.

So alright bro, 2 months no fap no video starts now. I wont fail but I really cant promise you about the sexy litterature... But oh well since you mentionned it ill remove it also.

That also goes along with my 2 months confidence challenge. Im also looking to add any other new habits that would be beneficial too me in the long run.

I just want to be able too love life and share everything that is amazing and beautiful about my soul, my imagination and my knowledge.

So yeah i guarantee you that you are not wasting your energy with me, and when it will pay off ill be there for you more than anybody else.

As in term of question to you well, any inner game concepts too apply? Daily routines to build back up my freaked out unconcsious?

To be completely honest with you, Nofap will lead the way. You will start to produce natural dopamine throughout the day and every decision you make beginning from what to text a girl to where to go on your date will be clear. You have no idea the journey ahead of you. Read up on Nofap as much as possible. Avoid as many mistakes as you can early on.

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Paul

"A man is the sum of his actions."

Dammit bro, this entire post made me cringe so bad and gave me a bit of social phobia lol. First off: You CRIED? What the actual fuck man, you are caring about this entire thing WAY too much. That being said, going out alone takes balls and to know what you are doing. To me, it sounds as if you were just being embarassingly obvious. And if it feels like "working", others can probably tell as well, and it just comes off as needy and creepy. I say ditch this entire going out alone thing for the moment. You are meant to have a bit of fun after all, and you are clearly not having it at the moment. Focus your energies on self improvement (both inner and outter game. You have way too many insecurities and "don't know how to react in XYZ situation" going on), learn how to properly socialize and interact with others (I mean, if there was people you knew, why didn't you hang out with them for a while?) and, if you have to run solo, maybe try some daygame next time.

Also, about this entire masturbation habit thing... Personally, I call bs on no fap; no porn is where it's at. No fap will just throw you into a flatline that will make you feel even worse for ages and not really change a lot. Or at least that's my experiences. I say go for it, since it probably won't hurt. And man, you really need to get back into more "normal" sex habits; it's hurting your desire and potentially your ability to perform in bed more than you would think. Then again, it's not magic. Don't lay back and wait for "no fap" or "no porn" to magically fix your life for you, because it will not happen and you will be disappointed. It's just a healthy habit; no more and no less.

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bro i'm a fellow afc too but this is my take on this not from experience but based on what i've been reading. ya gotta slow down, relax and take your time. if this whole thing seems like work then it is work and there's no point to it. more importantly i think you need to work on some basic fundamentals. first analyze the situation, figure out an opener, (you should have a couple opening routines that you are comfortable doin) and then use a proper approach. if you approach a 2 set or more you gotta start from the bottom before you pay any attention to the prize. use negs, build value, and then fluff her a bit. use statements, not questions if possible. watch for ioi's and if you can isolate her even better. (i.e. wanna have a smoke?) that's the best advice i can give at the moment. i haven't even studied kiss closing yet.

use your pain to fuel the fire man. a man's success isn't measured by how many times he's failed but by how many times he's gotten back up.

Yeah flatlines can be tough. Very tough. Simpy work through them. The above quote is right in the sense that you can't sit back and rely on Nofap to do the work for you. Nofap is the tool, you are the engine. You're going to have to use the new energy and confidence to achieve your own greatness. I do believe it is a little more than just a habit as I get natural intense dopamine highs after something rewarding happens to me. Especially after the first week. Thanks for the input Bounce, I'm glad to see you've experimented with this also

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"A man is the sum of his actions."

Ahhh... How many hours has it been? Im breathing fuck, in the two meaningz.

Im about too go out and put my hands on everything...... Thats just sad to know i will get rejected because of my frame and lack of confidence

I'm going to be sexual addict and up beaten and in prison with this non-modern no fap thing.

OMG I'm about to hit everything just ridicusly hard and direct, girls don't like that... I think...

Direct is fine if you're good looking. Based on your porn habits, I'm gonna wager you're neither in very good shape, nor especially physically appealing in any way.

Do you have friends outside of your comic book stuff?

Fundamentals first! If you're fat, lose fat. If you're skinny, build muscle.
Then, get stylin'
http://fashionbeans.com

Club/bar game is only effective for men who at least decent looking(being in much better than average shape is really quite important).

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I have ditched all my friends twice because they were only drug friends.

Right now I have 1-2 friends willing to go out, but one always ask me to land in money so i'm pretty fucking close too ditch him forever. The other one is cool, hes very muscular and has been going out a lot. He drinks a lot. He rarely approach, but he did got me laid working out some set for me then I just came in the set and had fun with the most beautiful girl and things went cool. He's really alpha, I kinda look beta with him, but I look beta everywhere so whatever.

So yeah, i'd judge my self as having two real friend, that cool dude and my old social therapist that eventually became my friend, but shes too old to want too pick up.

So... yeah, im not fat, but it's been 10 years im a nerd. So i'm really skinny. I do work out one time every two days, i'm deeply humble about the shit weight I do lift, but I still do and slowly work it out... but its getting on my nerve because I really dont like doing it... And even tough I try to say like ''this is for myself, for my health, etc... in truth i just lift the weight thinking ''oh yes... one step closer to sleeping with her''

I will take a look at that fashion site, but I don't have much money so spent on anything, just trying to get out of the hole i digged this past year. I still owe $7000 and my parents wants me too get the fuck out of their house because im too old. But if i do comply to that im just gonna end up working at mcdonald for the rest of my life. I dream to get a job I like, and a car back. It's been three cars I fuck up and now I kind understand the lesson.

I would not consider myself good looking, ever, because my view of womens is just on a pedestal in term of beauty. These monkeys womens mostly look at social value anyway, I hate it, I hate it sooooo much. I start to feel like I have to say something that could be said too everyone, specially in close social circle, like nothing is ever personnal with these bitches, they just dont care of me and any Relationship we could have, its just how much value can he get me, what value can i get helping people who I already care about and share stories with them.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8bjtwSB8fVY
Once you understand fashion, you can usually do something at least pretty good for almost nothing. You can get at least %80 of the impact for about %5 of the cost of the high end. It's about learning what looks good, and what looks good on you. A guy wearing thrift store clothes that were two sizes too big, that he resewed and now perfectly fit his body, is going to look much better than his twin wearing off the rack Rawyalty.

You may already know how to sew, if you go to conventions and stuff. Learning to sew is one of the best skills I ever picked up. I got a Brother sewing machine from an estate sale for like $15 and bought some bobbins and thread for it, for like another $10. Spent a few hours and destroyed a couple of old shirts I barely wore around the house and then I had the ability to fix clothes to fit me almost perfectly.

Social status helps to some extent. Though it has very little to do with sex. Once you pass a basic threshold, status helps very little unless you're distinguishably one of the influential hot guys that all the girls gossip about how sexy you are. Until you hit that point, social status matters more for getting a girlfriend than getting laid. Even in the case of high social status, your looks matter a lot. The vast majority of men with high status among women are good looking.

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