Hi, does anyone know or have any stories of times they managed to attract a girl who pushed you away (metaphorically) in the past because you were clear to her that you liked her?

This is a girl i really like and she knows it and i'd like to give it another shot. I'm ok picking up random girls (2 lays in the last month) but that also gets boring and i would like to attract the girl who means something to me.

Yes, but you have to truly change and truly not be needy.

Keep doing what you are doing, go on a lot of dates, learn this stuff, perhaps play the jealousy angle with her a little bit by showing publicly that you can get other girls. Then hit her up. There is no guarantee that it will work, you just have to stop acting like a friend and start acting like someone who is only interested in being a lover.

this particular situation is complex...the girl has a boyfriend...and she said that it was uncomfortable for her to talk because i knew she had a boyfriend. Once upon a time i know she liked me but distance made anything difficult. I haven't spoken to her in many months and I believe she is probably still with him.

I know the 'right' thing to do is to back off and in any other situation I would but this girl actually means something to me.

sadly in order to even get back in contact with her i think i'd need to act like a friend or something to an extent..but I don't know.. the situation is probably beyond recovery. It's very hard not to appear needy when you do actually like the girl more than just for sex. Is there any form of game which doesn't rely on feigning indifference?

Bump

You can show you like her, but it needs to be in a clever, indirect way. You can make subtle sexual innuendos and other things that will get her more interested in you, but it is tricky. From what it sounds like, you aren't at that level of game.

She has a boyfriend dude, that's a pretty tough obstacle to overcome if she knew you before she got the boyfriend. In her mind, she chose him over you. You don't really want her, you want her because she is your only viable choice. You have to be willing to walk away from this one and improve yourself to have a chance to get her back.

You have to change yourself first. See a lot of different girls, and find one who is really into you. That's what you deserve man. Do you really want someone who is only half interested in you? If you have self-respect you shouldn't be wanting that. Think about that, and focus on yourself. You don't need validation from a girl to be happy, she is just a product of your happiness.

People are attracted to happy, successful people. If you change yourself, maybe she will pick up on it, and become more attracted to you.

You need to go meet more girls.

Then... meet more girls.

Then hit this chick up again. Your approach towards her will naturally be different.

Then let one of your friends fuck her infront of you. That will help you get rid of any neediness and jealousy issues you have.