hi guys im taking a computer course (Windows Server), and i'm sitting next to this girl (in her 30's), who occasionally smiles at me and makes small talk, and asks stuff about my life (where do i live, studies, family,etc). she is married, she told that in a conversation and i could see the ring in her finger.

Thursday morning while i was taking some notes about what the teacher was saying i saw her out of the blue writing some stuff in a piece of paper, but she didnt give it to me right away. Some time later while we were talking i asked: do you have facebook, if so i can add you? and she gave me the piece of paper which contained her cellphone #, home phone # and facebook email.

I was a bit surprised, because she had to have a great amount of trust with me to give me her home #, i only met her last monday when the course started.

i didnt swap email or # right away and told her i would later text her my # and add her in facebook. i indeed did text her my # and added her in facebook, but she didnt reply to the message nor did she accepted my friendship invitation in facebook.

I know she's married and i should probably look elsewhere, but why so much interest and then go ghost for all weekend. at least she could text me back...

i think i'll ignore her and dont pay her any attention in class, and if she brings the subject of getting my cellphone # through the text message i sent her fine by me. Not really interested in trying to win her over or get me into problems. It's just i'm curious what it was all about, sometimes they (married women) don't have enough love or afection at home, or maybe she was just playing me for a fool, seeing how i would react. We never know with women these days.

If i would lay a married woman? If she wanted, and the guy she's with is a bastard, why not? Otherwise, it's a line i wouldnt cross, if the marriage was stable. it's just the attitude that confuses me?

What would you guys do? What do you think she was trying to do?

I would leave it be. Ignore her. Do not, under any circumstances, lay her. What if she is a gold digger and spends so much money that her husband works a shitload and she lacks attention due to her own actions? Imagine if you were married and your bitch cheated on you. It wouldn't be good feeling at all and it means you have 0 respect for the game. This is an art. Treat it like one. I could never betray something that has made my life amazingly better than what it used to be. The game has done so much for me and I couldn't ever imagine treating it's power in such an ill fashion. I ask that you respectfully decline her offers. Odds are she wants to bang you...yeah...but remember that she is married and likely has her husband as a friend on facebook and she doesn't want to be seen texting and when her husband ask who it is delete the message and say "nobody." So of course she is going to need her time and space with such matters such as cheating. But again...leave it alone...please...for the respect of the game and for the respect of humanity.

I say married is off limits - particularly if they have kids still at home... Unless you've got the loose ethical mindset to allow you to do that without guilt on your part...

And yes, I get the argument that it's her that's cheating, not you...

Up to you, man...

There are a lot of other girls out there without the baggage, though.