Hey guys, so this is difficult to word out but I'll try my best. I still think about this one girl, it's been a year now. I haven't moved on - mentally or emotionally. She was never officially my he and she was very insecure and a bit crazy but we had a great connection, ha. I still have her as a friend on FB and I still see her posts and stuff and there's sorta hints of who she's seeing. She recently took down her okc profile and I wondered if that means she found someone. It's safe to assume every guy she talks to on FB is flirting with her and who knows what she's done. The thought of someone you once deeply cared for, had feelings for, even loved being with someone else is difficult to deal with.

I know we've all been here, it's the circle of life. This girl was very shallow and tried to push her own insecurity on me and would always comment how I don't have muscles or that I have a stomach. A lot worse stuff too, hurtful things. I find myself comparing myself to the guys she talks to, their muscular, tall, I'm not. Makes me feel less of a person. I moved past some of it and talked to lots of new girls, these past few days I was able to set up 3 dates one after another. I haven't found anyone I've connected with though. I feel like I stagnated tho and didn't go out as much or find as many new girls cause of this.

Just frustrated that it's been a long time and I haven't gotten over it. I'm confused, how to do it and my confidence and mindset has just been a bit damaged cause of all this. Guys, deal logical with me here. I know a lot of ppl on here say Man up, etc. That doesn't help, there's emotional things at hand here. I'm very masculine and my passionate about my masculinity, I'm just dealing with something I don't understand and need logical answers. Thanks guys, much respect.

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Sounds to me dude like a case of one it is. You cared deeply for her and the fact she put you down physically by saying you werent muscular enough etc means you want to prove to her etc you are more of man than she could handle. Not going to lie i have a girl i think of constantly but the way to deal with it is distract yourself with another females attention and eventually the pain goes away . If you want someone to talk to about it or anything dude fire me a PM happy to listen and help out.

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First off, this girl....DELETE her EVERYWHERE...FB, Instagram, Twitter, that other site you were talking about if she's on there...wherever you are she should not be. Make a clean break. Any memory of her, next trash can you find...put it in there. I want you to forget this chick's name understand??? .... What's her name? Oh that's right you DON'T KNOW

Okkkkk we've established the easiest way to get over someone, no contact, no seeing them, no pining over them, no daydreaming of oh I wish it was like this, or that....because guess what? IT'S NOT LIKE THAT...PLUS...She's a bitch who stole your CONFIDENCE....that's what's up. Putting you down and insulting you? Why would you even like her? Get real....treat yourself better man.

Next thing, don't compare yourself to anyone...you're the STAR...The Alpha Male, you've been on here long enough to know how it goes...714 posts! Holy shit! Nice.

Anyways there's so many techniques and advice I can give you for CONFIDENT boosters, but really going out there and getting into the game with small accomplishments is the way to go and what each technique comes back to. You don't connect and can't connect because you're still hitting yourself over the head with a brick larger than my whole desktop. Look at this....ANYBODY and I mean ANYBODY can go and find things they dislike about themselves, negative things and basically just brood over that and sit down and be like "fuck....I'm ugly, I'm fat, I'm this, I'm that...those other guys got what I don't have and that's why she's with them, talking to them, fucking them, spending time with them, and I'm sitting here still babbling on about some bitch who treated me like shit."

IMPROVE THE BAD THINGS IN A REASONABLE SENSE AND TIME, BUT DON'T FRET BECAUSE YOU WANT TO FOCUS ON THE GOOD THINGS THAT ALREADY EXIST AND THE GOOD QUALITIES ABOUT YOURSELF AND MAKE THEM SHINE WITHIN YOURSELF TO CAUSE ATTRACTION AND BUILD YOUR SELF-WORTH/CONFIDENCE

Like we've already established this girl is dead to you....DEAD. Who cares what she's doing? Who cares who she's screwing? Nobody cares except you! You're being her lapdog and if she knew she'd make fun of you again and how could you blame her?? Really?

I know, I know...I'm being insensitive and an asshole...majorly so, but it just breaks my heart of coal to see someone crushing them own-selves because of some worthless piece of trash aka her. You're better than her, you deserve way better than her. You know why? Because you posted this in the first place with the thought of her....she has no thought of you and cares nothing for you...which is in opposite with your thought and caring for her. YOU'RE ALREADY BETTER THAN HER

You seem to have no issues with getting females numbers, but what are you going in there and expecting to find in your little hunt of a date? Some long term relationship stuff? Dating? Something even less like booty calls? What do you want? What is your goal? What do you feel like you need?

Think about it, write it down, type it up, post it here, PM me about it, let it mesh into you. Attraction and Chemistry is a CREATION of sorts. You create it and she eats it up. You want to connect? Take a real true interest in them for a change and get whatshername off your brain...that's right you don't even know.

THAT FEMALE....was not shallow...she basically was an insecure bitchy little twit who had no self-worth and stepped all over you and most undeniably a long list of men who fawned over her like you did to increase her sad wittle life purpose and that was to be...a dramatic little worm. Who cares if you don't have muscles? Who cares if you have a stomach and you're fat as fuck? NOBODY....NOBODY CARES...WOMEN DON'T EVEN CARE...looks are just ONE thing in a long list of what creates TRUE ATTRACTION and it's not even needed! In other words as it goes....LOOKS DON'T MATTER...LOOKS ARE NOTHING....LOOKS ARE POINTLESS....GAMING MATTERS, TECHNIQUES OF THE GAME MATTERS...HAVING INNER GAME IS WHAT MATTERS! CONFIDENCE IS WHAT MATTERS! SOMETHING YOU DON'T HAVE BECAUSE....GAMING IS CONFIDENCE! SIMPLE

You have the biggest case of Oneitis I've ever seen. You need to take medication to get better and GAMING IS THAT MEDICINE. Why don't you connect with women? That's right you never said. Just talk to them, show interest, have fun...don't TRY to connect, read them, their likes, their dislikes...be their friend with a little playful flirting, enjoy yourself....don't pressure yourself and weigh yourself down. It's not the end of the world...that bitch is not the end of the world. This is actually.....

A NEW START FOR YOU, A NEW JOURNEY....get back on your feet for another ROUND...there's still time!

PM ME FOR ANY AND ALL ADVICE on your situation, on any other situation...please be sure to ask with clear information so I know what's up. I am here and I'm glad to help you, it's always hard to get over someone especially someone you care so much for and so deeply, but we all must do it and we know it's coming so it should make it easier, but it still tends to not work that way.

JUST GO OUT THERE AND GAME WOMEN...HAVE FUN AND ENJOY YOURSELF...WORK ON YOURSELF...FOCUS ON YOURSELF AND WHAT'S BEST FOR YOU....cutting ties is what's best for you....you don't need her or her negativity in your life, the constant reminder when you look at her posts, the constant reminder when you look for her, or think about her with other men...YOU DON'T NEED THAT IN YOUR LIFE, YOUR NEW LIFE...NO MORE....HAVE ENOUGH SELF-CONTROL AND POWER AS A MAN TO DELETE HER FROM YOUR LIFE AND JUMP BACK UP FEET FIRST...DATING WOMEN AND JUST BEING PLAYFUL.

Hope to hear PM from you soon!