Hi guys, thought i'd run this by you before I send this message.

Background:
I've been playing the long game with a girl who lives about 2 hours away from me. She's keen to move to my city which is one of the reasons I decided to pursue her. I went up to see her about 3 weeks ago and we got on like crazy, lots of flirting, lots of sex, great conversations, basically all good. Afterwards, like before, we texted a lot.
After this point over the last 2 weeks I made the classic mistake of texting her probably too much which (i think) caused her to send me the 'youre a cool guy but...' text. Im gutted cuz I really like this girl, she's kinda my ideal lady.

So I realised that I'd come across super needy and it put her off of me. We've not been in contact now for a week.

What I want to do about it:
I want to message her to say that I realised (with a palm slap to the forehead) that I probably texted her too much and that I had got ahead of myself in terms of - how serious can this get while we both live so far apart from each other? I just want to acknowledge it you know?
The reason i want to send the message is because we had a good thing for a while and I believe we could have a good thing again once she moves to my city.
I want her to think of me as self aware and still an option when she does come down to visit her brother or eventually move here and to not think of me as the needy guy that has caused her to back out of the relationship. I also want to just get it off my chest! The tone will be light hearted and fun, just kinda admitting that i realised I was being kinda naive.
I know she'l be happy to hear from me in the future, she's cool that way, I just want her to know that we could still fool around on a casual tip because thats all it can be.

What im asking you guys is:
Im thinking of sending it towards the end of this week, but should i even send it? Will it come across even more badly? Will it destroy my chances more?

I know going forward now any contact with her will be a lot more relaxed and aware of the distance between us.

Interested to see what you think...

Here is what I think. In the next message you send her, let your excuse be the first sentence, and only one(1) sentence! Keep that sentence minimalistic, as short as it can possibly get. "I got a little carried away last time. What would you think about..." and never mention it again. If you can't let it go, it's just another sign of neediness and your desparate way of repairing something that is best repaired without trying at all.

Thats great man, thanks. I like 'repairing something that is best repaired without trying' too. Thats a good way of thinking about it.

Appreciated.

You're intention and heart is in the right place with the message. I can tell that you are a very intelligent guy; I would just like to acknowledge that you contacting her again is almost contradictory to the realization you want to inform her that you had.

Also, what you are thinking now is correct, however that is not something you tell your girl. Its just something you realize on your own and then you show and prove. You don't have to tell her about your new found sense of self awareness. Thats for YOU not her. Its your personal business. What you want to do is be a reflection of the new outlook you have.

What would that guy do in this situation? Surely if you the epiphany you had is genuine(which it would have to be if you wanted this to work) you would be able to answer that question.

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Again, another great reply, its really appreciated.

'contacting her again is almost contradictory to the realization you want to inform her that you had.' This is true.

'What you want to do is be a reflection of the new outlook you have.' I think I have no choice but to be that!

What would that guy do in this situation? Surely if you the epiphany you had is genuine(which it would have to be if you wanted this to work) you would be able to answer that question. This a very good point.

Im gonna have to hold it down for a while longer arent I. This long game just got a lot longer! I think she's worth it though. Just gonna have to keep my set casual.

Thanks, you've helped me get some perspective on this. Its been on my mind a lot. I definately need to work on my inner game, I dont usually let myself get wrapped up with a girl like this :/