How hard is it to make a woman cum if you have a small penis with penetration. I feel like less of a man when I eat out and use fingers and like she can't enjoy my penis which is very discouraging. I'm reading some books but they don't really discuss that just what to do and how to do it. 5 inches long and idk how to measure girth or width but it's not thick pretty proportionate . I'd say maybe three lighters thick or a woman's middle finger to the joint in the thumb from the top

Help thx

First of all, women in general rarely cum from penetration. When they do it's often because a lot more time was spent on foreplay. In fact, many women have never actually had an orgasm during sex! I'd say if you've given a girl an orgasm you're doing pretty good regardless of how you got her there.

Check this infographic: http://www.lehmiller.com/blog/2013/8/6/ ... nfographic

Note that 57% of women reported not being able to reach orgasm penile movement inside the vagina alone.

Second of all, 5" is not a small penis. It's pretty close to the average in the US. There are guys walking around out there with 1" dicks!

I'd suggest reading more about the female orgasm to better understand it. That blog I linked to has a few articles on the subject.

To the OP, I admire you for having the guts to ask a question like this, even if it's on an anonymous message board. Feelings of sexual inadequacy are brutal for any guy to face - kudos to you for wanting to make a change and being willing to take steps to change it.

I have a similar problem. My wife (of 12 years) could reliably cum when she's on top (but not from any other position), then after about the 3rd year of our marriage, for whatever reason "he" stopped staying hard while she was on top. I'd be all ready to pound nails, she'd climb on, and after about 10 seconds, soft as a marshmallow. I could still make her cum with oral sex (with almost 100% consistency) but I've gotta believe it's better and more explosive for her when it's "him".

The only thing I can even guess is maybe I blame it on gaining weight. In 2010 I lost about 36 pounds and then it seemed like at least SOME of the time "he" would cooperate, then I went off that diet and gained the weight back, and very rarely would "he" cooperate.

Has anyone else ever had problems with "him" just simply not cooperating in certain positions but working just fine in others?

Thank both of you two. I wasn't aware of the statistics on this. My issue stems from not being HUGE she's only been with huge guys (7-9inches) and she thinks that all black guys all have big ones and I'm the smallest she's ever been with. We've never even had sex before because of this. I know playing the comparison game is never good but it's cool thanks again.