Well I won't really sugar coat this, I lost out last night with this girl to another dude.
She and I got into a Frat party together and this one guy pulled her aside chatted it up with her and straight up kissed her in front of me. I was livid and decided to leave the party. She texted me later saying she wanted to talk about it and how she wasn't expecting it and so on.
My biggest question for you guys is, how the fuck do I make sure this doesn't happen again with another girl or another situation?

You need to make her more attracted to you than other random dudes.

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what the above poster said is really the only advice that can be offered here, but one thing I'm gonna suggest is think long and hard if you wanna be with this girl or not. I had a girl one time go to visit a guy "friend" at his place. She slept with him, and her excuse was roughly the same shit as what you said it just happened I didn't expect it everything happened so fast that bullshit. I'm like fuck that and never talked to her again thankfully I have plenty of other options. I know yours was only a kiss, but imo that's a pretty big warning sign if she's willing to disrespect you like that.

Sorry bro but it happens unless you're always keyed in and on the ball.

Happened to me before and it sucks. Not so much her kissing someone on front of me. The good thing is I knew exactly what happened and why I lost out: It was all my fault. Learn, calibrate and move on.

Damn sorry that happened. I would be pissed also. Did she just think of you were a guy friend and nothing more or you two were actually going together to a party? I want to know what lead up to the kiss. how did the guy pulled her away from you?

The guy walked up and started talking to her and isolated her pretty well. The thing was after the kiss she sort of wandered away from him and they didn't talk the rest of the time. So that's something. But honestly I'm less concerned on the girl herself and more focused on not having a dude steal a chick away from me again.

1. If you're dating a girl (as in man to woman relationship), any where you go to, whether it be a first date or the 77th date, claim her. By this I mean act in a way with her that signals to others that you're dating, you like each other romantically. If he kissed her, you should have been kissing her.

2. Don't take a girl who you know is loose (as in not yours, and would look to hook up with other guys) to a party.If you know she doesn't respect you enough to stay with you or only be interested in you that night, leave her home. Otherwise she's fair game.

3. Command respect from men. Carry yourself in such a way, that if a guy sees you with a girl he most likely isn't gonna wanna mess with you over a girl.

Put simply, the girl didn't care what you thought of her, and the guy didn't respect you. Fix these for next time.

^ The party thing, yes. Parties only make sense for girlfriends, where she has reason to avoid hooking up with other guys. It sounds like you didn't even know this girl very well.

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Do you even know the girl?


I suspect that you wanted to date her but instead ended up being really funny and friendzoned in the same night?

^ probably what happen. Im learning from this... next time I go out with a chick im kissing her and smacking that ass. Friend zoned denied lol

She reached out to you and justified the situation which means she still must have an interest in you. Wether you down grade her is up to you but don't spite your dick because of your ego.

And basically to avoid this you should have stepped in there like an alpha male and took her attention back. Let that guy know it doesn't work like that. You are in charge. If he moved in its because you wanted him to or you allowed him to. Next time find a witty, smooth, non aggressive approach to slipping back in and grabbing her attention. Don;t make him look like a prick or embarrass him just be a little more head strong and appealing to him.

Could only imagine what weak as conversation he was having with her.

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From the almost 4 years of being with my girlfriend I haven't had this problem. Well except for some drugged out loser that complimented her thighs when I wasn't in his sight.

You prevent this 99% of the time by mastering your body language and your frame. Nobody comes up to me and tries that shit when I'm walking confidently playfully smacking my girl on the ass or holding her by the hand and leading her.


When he does violate you in this way you must remain positive. I would have used the situation for an excuse to grab her by the waist and pull her closer to me and boxing the douchebag out.


If that fails and for some fucked up reason she pushes you away and wants to talk with the douchebag sure it may hurt.. but you grab your balls and start chatting up with women that are hotter than her... and act like it's no big deal. ( but from you story it seems like you wouldn't of had to resort to this)

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She kissed him because you didn't kiss her.

I think this is an awesome situation because it taught you a powerful lesson about attraction. Attraction doesn't necessarily have to develop over time. You can take action instantly. He was only able to do so because it wasn't clear what your position was with the girl. And you weren't clear about your position with the girl because you didn't make it clear.

See this as a positive thing because it taught you something to ensure that you will have a brighter future with women. Escalate. You don't always have to kiss, but just make sure that you claim whats yours. The way animal would piss on its territory.

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^ YES.

Wouldn't have been an issue if you were kino'ing her or had your arm around her.

^^ double yes. Kiss her first, very few guys will intercede with a girl already kissing a guy.