I went out on a date with this girl who I had known for a couple years, she finally broke up with her boyfriend so I took the opportunity. Anyways at 1:30am this girl that I really like texts me. Let me know what you guys think of the convo, here's how it went down;

Steph: I'm really sad

Me: Why? You seemed pretty happy

Me: Aren't you going to learn how to play the guitar?

Steph: I just got really sad about my ex I just got so so sad I just want deep fried pickles ice cream and a good movie and sweat pants and someone to play with my hair and not judge me when I emotionally break down and my dad's cancer is back and I haven't seen him because I hate seeing him sick I feel so sick to my stomach and I am so sorry I dropped that all on you.

Me: Forget about your ex he didn't deserve you in the first place. As for your dad, you'll make the best decision for yourself for what you think is best.

Me: I know I wouldn't judge you but I'm not an expert at playing with hair so don't know what to say to you about that one

Steph: Clearly I'm just not good enough to hold onto I did everything and more it was never the same so many broken promises. There's just so much wrong right now.

Me: You are good enough to hold on to.

Steph: No I'm not

Me: You are it's a blessing in disguise, you deserve better.

Steph: How can you say that

Me: Any guy would want you, you're not superficial like 99% of the girls. You're real.

Steph: I'm just me and apparently being me is not better than that.

Me: It is to some people. You should be happy you're not wasting your time.

Steph: Thanks

Anyways we continued talking and I cheered her up with a bunch of stupid jokes and got her laughing. by this point it was like 3am so she stopped texting and I said;

You must have fallen asleep have a good night and sweet dreams

What have I done? I feel like I royally screwed up here, I genuinly do care for this girl but I don't want to be friend zoned because I want to be more than that with her. Please help with any tips/suggestions. Thanks!

If I was to describe the friend zone to a new member, I would post this convo. Word for word. How do those emotional juices feel all over your clothes. Burn those ones.

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You said you took this girl on a date before she sent this to you.

You gave no details of the date. But let me make some predictions. And be honest.

1. There was no physical escalation. You didn't try to kiss her or so much as get in close to her. You didn't discuss anything sexual and made no effort to show her that your interested? Besides paying for her dinner I'm guessing.

2. You or her talked about her exbf at some point during the date.

I don't know how the 'date' went but I'm guessing mediocre at best, zero escalation?

The good news; There was some attraction left, she chose you to contact. She's not already your girlfriend, so be aware that this means you may have had a chance with this particular woman, since women tend to select men they can cry on as potentially viable mates. If this woman is comfortable enough with you to spill her guts, take that as a positive sign.

The bad news; You pushed her away from the sexual cues she was throwing at you, like a dog begging for scraps at the table.

You chose instead to be her emotional tampon and BFF.

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