Hey guys here's what's up I feel kinda bad, but I also suspect that's how this girl was trying to make me feel.

We had made plans earlier in the week to go out on sunday she texts me saturday night.

Her: heyyyy there's a street festival tonight it'll be really fun we should go!!

Me: sure sounds good. Afterward we should get some ice cream hang out on the factory roof again!

No reply.

Sunday the day we have plans nothing she didn't answer her phone on saturday I'm not gonna call or text on sunday. Its on her.

Monday.

Her: hey weren't we supposed to hang out yesterday? I'm a bad person I know. I ended up having a girls night on saturday. I'm just really shitty at keeping plans when I don't have a solid job etc. (To me that's bullshit because what does having a solid job have to do with laying on the beach on a sunday?)

I don't respond.

Today
Her: heyyyy there's an outdoor movie playing tonight at the park just up the street from my house I have no one to go with if you want to come with me

Her: did I mention there's popcorn )))))))))))

Me: can't tonight I have 6am boxing tomorrow.

Part of me feels kind of bad, but this isn't the 1st time she's flaked and I'm tired of it so I figure if that how she's gonna be fine I'm not gonna try and change you, but don't expect to be high on my list of priorities.
Keep in mind I like this girl, but I'm not dependent on any sort of outcome she wasted my time if she wants a 2nd chance she's gonna have to prove she's worth it. Just looking for some feedback on how I handled it.
As always any feedback is appreciated thanks!

Solid theory.


Not only has she admitted she got a better offer saturday night she's trying to get assurance that shes not a bad person and also get pity for not having a solid job. But like you say, thats irrelevant.
She doesn't even explain why she was unavailable Sunday.

Only ever bring her unreliability up as a joke. You are not bothered if you see her or not. As she texted you about it first you should have replied with something like "nah no worries, my mate popped over and we (insert bullshit here). Ended up being a hilarious night, hope yours was good too."
Never flake for revenge. Mind games and revenge are for LTR. But you obviously have a legit reason. And its not really a flake because you've explained no. Which works in your favour because you're not eternally available at her whim so now she's chasing you.

"I have no-one else to go with" is not even code for that shes not very highly invested and you are a fall back. Either that or its a shit test that you'll forgive her flaking twice because you pity she has nobody to go with. A classic DLV of being a pushover. Either way you end up the mug.

Leave the ball in her corner for a few days.
Keep us up to date with this.

Here's a bit an update.

Last night

Her: oh shit you train before you work all day?! That's crazy good for you!

Her: anyyyyyyyyWwwayyyyyyyssssss let me know when you're free then I'm leaving the city this friday for the weekend then next weekend I'm leaving for the bahamas for a weeke, but when I get back hopefully I'll have a proper job and be able to spend more time with cute boys like you

I give her credit she's trying to make up for her flakiness I haven't had a chance to respond to that yet anyway we'll see what happens at the end of the day she is a fun girl to hang out with, but I'm not gonna be an option on the back burner for her I think that's what I was and she when she thought she lost me all of a sudden I moved up the priority list.

Either way I don't really care so we'll see how it plays out.

you make some fair comments and assumptions

reply with something like
oh yeah this handsome physique doesn't come free you know.

make it jokey and slightly flirty. maybe throw in a neg if you can get away wit it
you obviously understand

most importantly, take control.
wow busy schedule, in that case tonight (venue) around (time). it'll be a night that can last you all weekend.

I hit her up with a m
ore playful text, but still putting the point across that she's gonna have to work for anymore of my time

Me: well I'm going to D.R. So we'll see what's up when I get back, but you know this sexy physique isn't free you're gonna have to work for it

We'll see what happens in the mean time I have a date with a different girl tonight and a different girl lined up for every night this week so we'll see how it plays out.

You're basically pouting over it.

While it's good you've frozen her out for it make sure the next time you want to meet up it's on your terms. "Hey lets go to X, i'm free then." If she tries to reschedule just stick to your guns and tell her you're not available after that. It's all a mind game just don't play it and stick to what you want to do and when you want to go out. Be more dominant and immoveable on the subject in order to condition her not to flake on you for better things. She seems invested if she's barraging you with messages after you froze her out now she's on damage control which puts the ball in your court. Your play is simply not to play the game and state a date, time and place to meet when you're available. Don't reschedule otherwise this chick is going to fuck with your head over and over and believe me, these women are fucking nightmares so either ditch her or let her know you've zero interest in petty games.

I wouldn't say I'm pouting, but iam a bit annoyed over it which I don't think is unreasonable. The thing is the whole game has kinda lost its allure to me. I'm at the point now where I would like to have a cool gf that I can just hang out with and not have to worry about game. Anyway like I said we'll see how this plays out

Thanks for the advice!!