So I started a new job along with about a dozen other people a month ago, and there happens to be one hottie in the group. Shes a HB8 and is one of those "loner hot chicks" who doesn't reallt get along well with other girls so she hangs out with the guys. There's a guy in the group who I became friends with right away- he's crazy into video games and other nerdy stuff and he is shameless about it. He also has a girlfriend of 12 years who is pregnant and absolutely hideous. Well a few weeks ago i started talked to hb8 and invited her to eat lunch with me and nerdy guy since she usually ate alone.

I think hb8 sparked the nerd's interest because she also mentioned that she likes video games (i doubt he's been with many hot chicks, so one who is also a gamer would be a godsend). Well, as those two have gotten to know each other they've really gotten tight. They have pages and pages of texts (i noticed him scrolling through his conversation with her) and pass notes to each other during work time and always seem to be giggling. This guy goes hard with his flirting too- he's always stealing stuff from her and hiding it in his pocket, poking fun of her, following her outside on breaks, etc.

Strangely enough, hb8 seems cool with it. I was expecting her to confide in me with something like "nerd is really creeping me out!" but she hasn't. The closest I got was her telling me "I told nerd to add me on snap chat, and he said he only adds girls who show him their boobs. But I'm sure he was just kidding."

So now I'm being phased out in a way. The two of them will be huddled together giggling and I'm off to the side. I'm confident that I am better looking than the nerd and also have better game skills. Not to mention the fact that he's engaged with a kid on the way. But it seems like he's somehow winning this silent competition.

At this point I'm not even sure how to handle it. I know it sounds cruel... but I would rather she denies us both than see her get with the lame guy and his horrible game. Make no mistake, I do like the nerd as a friend quite a bit.

At the same time, maybe she just likes the attention from him and she has no intention of messing around? I want to ask her if she thinks he's interested or ask him to his face if he is, but I feel like it would just backfire.

What I wouldn't give to get my hands on one of their phones and see what they text about all day. I wonder if I get brought up? Why is this bugging me so much? I've laid four new girls in the past two weeks so it's not like I'm starved for sex. I just don't want to deal with being the awkward third wheel for 40 hours a week.

Stay out of it.

Don't shit where you eat.

Your nerd coworker friend is setting himself up for A LOT of potential drama. You don't want to be there when the shit hits the fan.

And when shit does hit the fan, you'll realize, "that could have been me."

Seconded.

I work hospitality and because of the heavy hours and poor social life, you see so many co-workers hook up and then mess up and it really ruins everyone's enjoyment at work.

I'd also warn nerd guy you think their relationship is a little inappropriate for a man in his circumstance.

Thanks for the responses. It makes me wonder though... maybe I'm just overreacting? Maybe the nerd isn't trying to flirt with her.

It's hard for me to fathom, because I don't think I would ever talk to a hot single girl daily without having the intention or goal of banging her. And my gut feeling is that all men operate this way. But maybe he just really likes talking to her about gaming and the fact that she is also a hot chick with a great body has no meaning.

I'm definitely not going to make any waves by trying to make moves on the girl, I'll just continue to bide my time and see how this plays out.

Nah, hes definitely flirting. The hiding of property, the teasing and the snapchat boob comment are all massive IOIs from him.
His fiancee is expecting remember, he might be out for a bit of strange.
But if he's as nerdy / naive as you suggest, he probably doesnt even realise whats going on.

Unless you are aiming for a LTR with her, walk away.

Why would you even want a chick like this?

The engaged nerd may be gaming (you like the nerd, he has befriended the competition) but that's cool it has nothing to do with you just how the chips fell in this scenario. But yeah don't shit where you eat.

She's probably escorting on the side.