I started flirting with this chick at work who has a boyf. She was receptive but we never went past a point.

Anyway, she goes on holiday for 2 weeks, messages me while she's there telling me she's thinking about me and then at one point says she's agreed to be in an open relationship with her boyfriend.

She gets back, we go for drinks and IMMEDIATELY get hot'n'heavy, very publically not far off fucking her. She was to come over soon so we could have sex but we've been texting and she's saying she might break up with her boyfriend. I said I don't want that to happen and she said she doesn't like him anyway and would miss me too much.

I never wanted her as a girlfriend! I thought this was safe because she had a boyfriend. Should I just outright tell her I'm not looking for a girlfriend and don't want her as a girlfriend and don't want to ruin things with her boyfriend, or is that a bit dickish after I've been going for it while she wasn't single?


Nevermind, I just told her straight I didn't want a girlfriend. Seemed stupid to even make this thread when it's obvious... Thanks anyway

Bro!!

She never said you had to be her boyfriend. Let her make her own decisions. You were never leading her on.

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well dude,like a fisherman that caught a really good fish, you can either throw it back into sea or eat it fried with a side of delicious steamed greens.if she broke up with her boyfriend just to be with you,you can take her up on the chance of at least dating her once an see how it goes!

if she breaks up with her boyfriend,date her fuck her and keep her but if she makes up some shitty excuse "i have feeling for you but i love my boyfriend" dont text her and avoid her

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"Life is a chance,take all the ones you get".

Girls with boyfriends often TALK about breaking up with them. Don't worry about it. Sometimes she does, often she doesn't. In either case, it doesn't matter. More than anything, she's giving herself an excuse for sleeping with you. She's "not really" with her boyfriend, so it's ok to fuck you. She may then "make up" with her boyfriend hours later. And then he crosses another line right before she's going to see you. Ignore all of that.

Yes, she technically does want you to replace him as her current boyfriend. But she's happy with just hooking you for now. You probably won't be fucking this girl a year from now, but you should be fine for months.

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RSDTyler