| Hi Guys,
Great forum, used it for years to help me development my mindset and be confident in life, not just women.
I have stumbled across a scenario I haven't personally come across yet and thought I would put it to the forum to help me decide the best course of action.
I have managed to keep my "alpha" mindset strong through a recent breakup and have been having a great 6-8 weeks, I think through tinder alone i've managed to spend a night with at least 5 different girls, often many of them wanting a repeat performance. I have a few new girls on the go that I will sleep with over the next week or so when our schedules allow it so I have no problem with my abundance mindset. My social life in general is strong and things look great at work.
Enter M (I won't use her name). Nothing special to report, matched on tinder she's cute, has the whole I'm an asshole speech on her profile to scare guys off, got chatting, built strong rapport and escalation, got her number within an hour or so. I know my text game isn't the strongest once I start getting bored but I think I can do enough to keep it alive and I don't have trouble getting girls to meet me.
Few days later I was going to a wedding and out afterwards, mentioned I would send her a picture in my sexy suit to make her jealous and everything was going well. She came and found me during the night in a club, ended up just us two, she wanted to go back together, in complete control at this stage and we sleep together. Get the whole "you're the best one night stand i've had in a while" stuff, which doesn't mean too much to me but it's good to hear, having great sex is a strength I hold dearly lol.
On her day off about 3 days later, we meet in the afternoon, spend about 5 hours together, 2 of it having sex and it's pretty amazing, she gave me the best head I've had in a long time and I made her cum more than once for the first time. Seems sealed that I have a great fuck buddy for the next few weeks.
I was bored after work and went to see her before she got off at work. She is a bad texter, she is 19 and working 12-14 shifts at a restaurant until she leaves for uni end of september so doesn't get much free time, so i thought i'd turn up and see if she was free tonight/busy tomorrow. We hang for a bit, some of her regulars turn up, turns into a great night, it rains and drop her home. Tried to tempt her back for a bit of fun, you can tell she wants to but in fairness she is knackered after 14 hours work, probably a bad move me turning up after a long shift.
Now here is my problem, I get back, text back and forth a bit when we're in bed, she mentions of our regulars was nice to me which isn't like him, i say maybe he approves and joke about it. Now maybe it was me trying to spark a bit of effort on her side seeing as I've lead completely but I say next that i haven't worked her out yet, well done. She bites and I explain I'm good at working people out but she intrigues me.
I want to leave that in her mind to bubble but i stupidly respond ( think its because we never hold a conversation over text so i was milking it) when she asks why. I just put back something quickly followed by that fact thats good that a fuck buddy has something else to her and it makes a change.
Then the bombshell, she puts: "and you want nothing else than a fuck buddy?"
Now I don't if I'm honest as I know ill get bored of her quickly but I do want to interact with her slightly more than we are right now. Before I get a chance to reply, I get:
"you don't have to freak out because I really don't, like I'm really happy as I am right now," followed by
"and don't want anything serious" "Like AT all".
I guess she's tried this before and been burnt so I put:
"No lol" "You're safe"
To which she replies "The fact I've seen you twice is already freaking me out".
I'm still not nibbling, Im not worried I'll lose her at this change but i am curious. I try and dampen the fire with a you've got your stuff going on, i have mine, I'm just enjoying something fun while it lasts. Seems to work and she chills.
I flip it and say for her not to get weird on me now, just because we're chatting doesn't mean it has to get serious. She says she just wanted to check and I explain i've done this many times which gets a positive relaxed response. I steer to back to planning a meet and joke about how horny she's gotten now and i wind her up that she had her chance. Fall asleep.
If I'm honest, i feel like somewhere along the way, i communicated that I was getting into her, maybe it was the odd random text or turning up at work twice in a the space of a week. I didn't need to do that, I have an abundance of girls but I got lazy and focused on one too much.
How would anyone takes this from here? I'm not getting in contact with her now until she does to reenforce the casual vibe, I have other girls to play with over the next few days. If she wasn't going away soon, I would like to turn it into a frequent fuck buddy/ hang out thing but I want to make it so when she's back every month, she'll want to look me up.
Thanks for your help in advance guys
Mike
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