Hey, guys. Need some help sorting out a situation...

This is a girl i've known for some time now. She went on a few dates with some dude over the last month and now is breaking up with him. Last night she invited me to go to an amusement park.

First wierd situation, people (waiters, vendors) kept calling us a couple. We mostly laughed of it. I made a few jokes with it, like "there's a new way to get married. Instead of going to an elvis chappel in Vegas we were united in holy matrimony by the dude on the hotdog stand" and called her "wife" a couple times. She said she will have to call me cousin from now on.

Second, I tried some kino and I'm not exactly sure what went wrong. I started by placing my hand on her arms and back to lead her on in the crowd, wich she was cool with. When we were talking I would place my hand on her arm when I wanted to point out something. Held her hand to teach her how to use chop sticks. Later, when we were walking back to the car she complained she was cold and I put my arm around her shoulders. Then she removed my arm and said something like "sometimes I have to pull the breaks on you". I argued with "well, you said you were cold. I was just being nice" She said "I'm not cold" and less then a minute later she complained again, when I pointed that out she just kept silent.

Still it did not made things awkward. When I drove her home we spent almost an hour talking inside the car in front of her house and she texted me a few times after I got home.

Can you tell me how I did? What did I do wrong? How do I procede?

The kino situation was a bit of a leap, I have read "Magik's guide to kino escalation" where he compares touching a girl to horse breaking, so I guess I'll just revert to the touching she is already confortable with and try again with smaller steps.

What really threw me off balance was people calling us a couple. How the fuck am I supposed to react to that? And is there a way to capitalize on that to make her accept (or at least consider) the idea that we could be a couple?

Whats up man.

She’s obviously in between thoughts/feelings/emotions to the point where she doesn’t know what she wants to do, nor does she know what outcome she wants. There are examples of IOIs (she invited you in the first place) and some that are definitely not (you are the “cousin”).

I think your kino escalation was fine on its own…the problem is when the kino is either misinterpreted by her, or like it seems in this case, it was more brotherly (or cousin-y) than butterfly inducing.
I’ve actually used, “We’ve been on and off for several lifetimes.” The comment elicits at least an awkward laugh, many times a big laugh. Regardless, it sounds both real and fake, but its still something that can be an interesting banter topic. BUT. There is some vetting you need to do before saying something. Is she into you? Then positive reinforcement to the “GF” question might work. Not sure? Don’t be that guy who pushes through with the couple narrative or else she’s going to be uncomfy for the duration of the date.

Honestly, theres no right answer. But what always prevails is humor. So the funnier the response, the better received, generally.

Also, the times this has happened to me it was more of an understanding that we were a couple so when they brought drinks it would be like “Two drinks for the beautiful couple” or something along those lines. You don’t necessarily have to address those comments. I’ve made eye contact with her briefly and just smiled at the waitress, ignoring the comment. This is pretty safe IMO…plus, if shes into you at all, it’ll tickle her mind wondering what you were thinking and why you didn’t say anything.

Sorry for the rambling response.

I’d say NEXT this girl based on what you’ve described. Even if she was into you, her head is everywhere and I think its going to suck just trying to keep up. Plus, shes probably doing this to a few other dudes aside from you. Use this as motivation and a learning experience for the next girl, and knock it out next time.

Sounds to me that she isn't sure whether she wants you as her lover or not. It seems to me that you did everything right but there isn't much you can do if she isn't responsive to your advances back.

I agree with the guy above me.... NEXT this girl and go and find other options. If she really is interested in you, she'll come back around and if she doesn't at least you know where you stand with her.