There is some things that i don't understand and i would like some understanding on this point.
So it's been 6 months since she dumps me (2,5 years relationhsip) and 3 months no contact since then.
But one week ago i just learn a few things :
1) She thinks i still want her and she is thinking of getting back with me in the futur (i don't want to)
2) She is badmouthing the shit out of me. It's not for getting a reaction for me, because the things she said is to someone that i have no contact with.
She says stuff like "Lec has the time to make me feel ashame for being an introvert, that i will never have friends if i don't come back to him and that i will be forever alone". And other stuff like this, that i'm playing on her weakness to make her come back or make her feel bad.
But i never said such things and didn't really speak to her since the break up. The only things close to that was while we were in the relationship. She was angry at herself for not making friends easily and i just said "Just accept the fact that your are an introvert, it's not a disease. It will be easier for you and you will see that people will come to you". It's the only things that i see.
I have an obsessiv mind and won't have peace till i don't understand her behavior.. So i'm asking if someone got some idea on why a woman, a dumper, will act like that?
(i know i have to move on, stop obsessing etc, i already take huge step in moving on)

Breakups are sometimes hard, even for the one who initiates it. She's doing it to make herself feel better. Leave it be, and move on.

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i have actually been in a very similar situation and i found that she was doing it for my attention because she did not want the relationship to end she ended it so i wold come crawling back and i didn't so she started spreading shit i started of bad mouthing back but in the end i fond it was best to just ignore it no one believed it anyway and she will get bored