I used to date this girl that I still have feelings for and think about a lot -- I haven't talked to her in 5 months. She's a different type of girl. She has this "The grass is greener on the other side" mentality, I wasn't able to be in a relationship cause I didn't trust her. She wanted a guy that was tall and muscular, deep voice -- stuff I didn't have. She had no experience with guys in college and now she's out she wants to explore (she's a virgin), we got together, became REALLY close (yet she was shallow and made me feel insecure about myself) and I called it off. To sum it up, she wanted to experiences things, yet i met her at the wrong time and I won her over, dated her for a few months, even though she was crazy about me, she compared me to other guys (said hurtful things about me), was double minded, and it effected me and we split.

I spiraled into a depression from her comments and the loss of the relationship. I recently seen her post this pic on FB of her at a party with a guy she compared me too and seen before (or maybe early) we when we going out. And it effected me massively this morning. I seen her happy -- The thought of her finding someone better than me, and her kissing him and etc, hurt me a lot -- I know a lot of you guys been here before. I don't know how to mentally resolve this so it won't hurt me. Maybe thinking, "She's somebody else's problem now" etc, get it?

It hurts me cause I feel like I'm nothing and she replaced me with a guy who's taller, physically fit (I don't have big muscles - not ripped) and gets lots of girls and has a life -- everything I wish to be. I imagined myself walking in that party and I'd feel lower than everyone else, not like I'd be the cool guy that makes an awesome entrance. I also miss her and feel I should talk again as a friends. I feel I lost all my power.

I'd really like an intelligent answer on this that addresses the way I feel and mindset I should have and action I can take because for me this is a serious issues. I want to resolve this emotional pain

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This is called oneitis and it is caused by investing too much into a girl. It sucks. It's happened to a lot of us on here.

You need to stop investing in this girl.

She seems interested in another guy right now.

Go after other girls, and discover your value on the dating market. Start to improve yourself - learn things and work out.

Being short does suck, I'm in the same boat, but you can still get very pretty girls without too much trouble if you invest the time into yourself and becoming awesome.

But don't invest time in this one right now - go after other girls.

I'll explain. I'm very much into self improving, I'm sure there's wisdom to what your saying, yes, I shouldn't invest but that doesn't help the emotional pain

I do workout, but it will take me a very long time to see results. So thats aggravating.
I try to go after other girls, I had 10 dates recently and they all ended with bad results. So that hasn't done much for my self esteem - it's made it worse.

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Hey mate I'm gonna tell you exactly what to do because I've been there probably even worse. I had oneitis so bad I was sick to my stomach literally throwing up I was so tore up over this girl, but what I want you to do is as soon as you get a chance delete her from fb delete her from your phone. I know you're gonna say you can't or you have this little sliver of hope you're clinging to that won't let you delete her fuck that just do it. I didn't think I could and I did it was a huge weight gone it was literally instant relief and closure you're just torturing yourself by seeing the fun stuff she is doing. Then I want you to watch the movie Yes Man with Jim Carey. That movie demonstrates the best way to get over oneitis. I'll give you a little motivation when I was tore up over this girl I had to get my bloodwork done for boxing it didn't come back clear there was a chance it could have been cancer thankfully it wasn't so I had that to deal with plus the oneitis. I got past it and brother I'm dating 5 different girls right now I'm living life is good! If I can get through that sure as fuck you can get past your situation. www.wayoftheplayer.com lots of good reading material on there that will help you. www.livestrong.com lots of good articles on there about recovering from a breakup and what not I spent hours reading on there it really helped me.

Anyway mate consider that my boot meeting your ass now get the fuck out of your rut and have some fun!!

You shouldn't let one girl control your emotional well being or you perception of yourself. So what this girl wasn't that into you, it happens tons of other women. As far as the working out and not seeing results goes get some supplements, there is tons of info. on the net that will help you set up a plan for you. But I started with cretin and protein shakes and have seen lots of results when before I was in the same boat as you...no results.