Hi, i recently saw a nice profile on a society website (not dating) of which i was a member and wrote to the girl, she replied and we wrote to each other for a week until we met up and had a great time, we stayed 4 hours , chatted, laughed, she gave me her number and said we will go for drinks soon......then suddenly after 2 days she tells me she never met anyone this way (online) and is feeling a pressure from all the texting and prefers to be friends for now although she says im great......did i over do it with texts daily? could this be it? can i still salvage this situation? I believe i should lay low and give her time to understand im not pushy! thanks!

You almost certainly overdid it.

Rule #1 : neediness is an incredibly unattractive trait.

If you ever, ever appear needy (chase too much, spend tons of money on expensive shit, keep telling her how amazing/attractive/smart she is) then most women will be turned off.

The fun is in the chase. There is no fun in the having, it's the getting.

This is why negging works. Not the silly overblown negging that some people advocate. But you can learn a lot from this.

1) You should wait a while before replying to texts. Make it appear that you're busier than you are.
2) BACK OFF from this girl. Go cold on her. She will wonder what the hells happening. If you appear to have moved on, suddenly she'll become really confused and start chasing you again. This is what you want. The best thing to do? ACTUALLY move on. Find another girl. Start talking to her. There are so many women out there, why get hung up on one?
3) Texting/all that stuff is not the goal. If you're chatting to someone a lot, what are you really getting out of it? Always have a goal. Always be aiming to see a girl again, always be aiming to do the next fun thing, to take things to the next level
4) Once you're sleeping together you won't feel the need to be constantly sending her boring shit. This is how it works.

Hope this helps.

thank you very much, its hard to find good opinions in forums as 90% of (bitter) guys and girls will always say "move on she's not into you" but we all know you dont get crazy attraction from day 1 and noone like to be pestered with loads of texts.......i'll go cold and wait, best thing to do which has worked in the past !