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PostPosted: Sat May 17, 2014 4:10 pm 
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After studying my game I realized I had some a few key issues that held me back. Please shed some light on each question, they're all big problems in my game. How can I resolve them?

- I'm afraid of saying the wrong thing, during convo or text. I think so much that it stops me from acting smoothly and makes me awkward.
-I don't know what's the first thing I should say and what comes after that in order to attract her.
-I end up thinking too much and it messes me up.
-I'm afraid of an approach because she'll say something bad to me and I'll lose confidence.
-Can anyone be Alpha? It's sorta not in my nature.

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PostPosted: Sat May 17, 2014 4:38 pm 
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We've all been there. I'm glad you're looking at PUA websites because this means you're ready to move forward. As anyone will tell you, PUA is just applied charisma.

Your problem is with what's commonly referred to as Inner Game.

This might be of some help:
http://www.puatraining.com/blog/how-to- ... inner-game

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PostPosted: Mon May 19, 2014 5:35 am 
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We've all been there. I'm glad you're looking at PUA websites because this means you're ready to move forward. As anyone will tell you, PUA is just applied charisma.

Your problem is with what's commonly referred to as Inner Game.

This might be of some help:
http://www.puatraining.com/blog/how-to- ... inner-game
What about attraction or my question about Alpha and etc.?

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PostPosted: Mon May 19, 2014 7:34 pm 
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Oh, attraction building?
Just layer your conversation with sexual overtones and use light to heavy kino.

Classifications like "Alpha" and "Beta" are fluid. Society recognizes you as an alpha once you adapt all the behaviors of an alpha. Your insecurities and social shortcomings don't go away immediately; they're something you have to work on. Through repetition things become actualized. Your identity changes in line with your actions.

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PostPosted: Mon May 19, 2014 8:00 pm 
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Oh, attraction building?
Just layer your conversation with sexual overtones and use light to heavy kino.

Classifications like "Alpha" and "Beta" are fluid. Society recognizes you as an alpha once you adapt all the behaviors of an alpha. Your insecurities and social shortcomings don't go away immediately; they're something you have to work on. Through repetition things become actualized. Your identity changes in line with your actions.

^^^^ Good post, just fake it till you become it. Reality internally = reality externally eventually.


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Oh, attraction building?
Just layer your conversation with sexual overtones and use light to heavy kino.

Classifications like "Alpha" and "Beta" are fluid. Society recognizes you as an alpha once you adapt all the behaviors of an alpha. Your insecurities and social shortcomings don't go away immediately; they're something you have to work on. Through repetition things become actualized. Your identity changes in line with your actions.
1) Initially my question was: What's the first thing I should say and what comes after in order to attract her. Honestly I don't really have a proper definition of what attraction (in pua) terms is. Say once I'm in the attraction stage I'd have NO IDEA what to do. If you said, "I met her than did some attraction material" I wouldn't know what you meant. Can you please explain this entire process in detail like exactly what to say cause I honestly have no idea exactly what you meant in your answer.

2) I mean I'd imagine an alpha as someone that's 6 FT with muscles and a low loud voice. I'm 5'4, not very muscular with a bit of a tummy and a raspy voice. Could I still be Alpha? How could that make sense. Please enlighten me.

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PostPosted: Mon May 19, 2014 11:55 pm 
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Oh, attraction building?
Just layer your conversation with sexual overtones and use light to heavy kino.

Classifications like "Alpha" and "Beta" are fluid. Society recognizes you as an alpha once you adapt all the behaviors of an alpha. Your insecurities and social shortcomings don't go away immediately; they're something you have to work on. Through repetition things become actualized. Your identity changes in line with your actions.
1) Initially my question was: What's the first thing I should say and what comes after in order to attract her. Honestly I don't really have a proper definition of what attraction (in pua) terms is. Say once I'm in the attraction stage I'd have NO IDEA what to do. If you said, "I met her than did some attraction material" I wouldn't know what you meant. Can you please explain this entire process in detail like exactly what to say cause I honestly have no idea exactly what you meant in your answer.

2) I mean I'd imagine an alpha as someone that's 6 FT with muscles and a low loud voice. I'm 5'4, not very muscular with a bit of a tummy and a raspy voice. Could I still be Alpha? How could that make sense. Please enlighten me.
I think you're looking at game like it's an exact science. As if A+B will always equal C. That is not the case. Game is more of a theory based upon observations of society, nature, PUAs' personal experiences, etc. Just out of curiosity, what sort of PUA material have you read-up on?

As far as your physical features go, I saw a meme somewhere that went something along the lines of "Picking up women as a ugly dude is like playing a video game on 'Hard'" The meme said it better, but you get the idea. So basically, using that analogy, you know the video game can be beaten, but it's going to be tougher.

Anyway, Alpha, in terms of game, is not a body type, it's a state of mind, it's your mannerisms, etc. Regardless, you should still work on your outward appearance because that's the first thing people notice. People often say "Don't judge a book by its cover", but people do. This is something I'm starting to come to grips with myself. Despite that, all you can do is work on yourself and keep sarging. Success will come.

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