This might be because she's going home for 3 weeks and I'm known as a "playa"/"slut" around our university campus but anyway, just an explanation/elaboration is needed as she used to be quite shy around me and be compliant as fuck.

She still is fairly compliant but its gone from me getting stuff like coffee, bacon sandwiches, breakfast and such without asking. Now i need to demand/ask for it before its made. She can be quite bossy and has admitted that that side of her only comes out when she's comfortable with someone.

I've had sex with this girl fairly often too, mostly her chasing me. I've also given her her first shaking orgasm in life overall which whilst I assumed was a good thing she keeps telling me "It did feel a bit weird"

So yeah she's headed back home today so I went round hers for sex before she left. Didn't get it, she just seemed very neggy and picked up on pretty much anything I did "Urgh its so annoying that you cough like that" or "stop fidgetting so much, its annoying me" and "Urgh. You do actually annoy me a lot, no idea why I like you"

I replied to all of them with quick cheekiness but whats with the change in behavior? Is it purely because she's headed home for the 3 weeks and wants it to seem uninterested about our situation so I chase her whilst she's away? trying to get me to state its exclusive? or just simply losing interest.

While I understand your concern for this particular girl... I want to ask two probing questions

1) What exactly do you want from her?
2) Are you still busy sarging?

If you want to be in a relationship with her, or continue having her as a call girl... just play along with her "negs"

The reason why I'm asking if you're still sarging... is because... if you're still busy sarging, you wouldn't worry about losing this girl so much, and your focus will be spread to all the other girls you're currently gaming.

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1) I want in the future an LTR but currently both of us are far too busy to deal with such a thing. (Final Years @ Uni) So currently I'm "dating" her. She's exclusive to me (purely because she's "not that kind of girl") but I've never stated exclusivity to her.

2) Not really. I'm on placement and all the girls are busy with final year so its very difficult to sarge. I work during the day and being a student I'm pretty skint so yeh altho I'm meeting a girl for drinks next week (she initiated) and another one is coming back from her placement in France and wants to meet for drinks (fucked this one before.) So whilst I'm not essentially "sarging" I still do have backups.

Could you elaborate what you mean by "play along" with her negs? Do you mean jokingly agreeing then dragging her neg into "fantasy land" or making the assumption that she should be the one to "fix" said neg.

Bit more information on that shaking orgasm part. She's informed me that since then it hasn't been a physical weirdness but she just "feels weird" (mentally i assume)

I always assume "feeling weird" is a bad thing but since then she has acted different (less compliant and such) but has also stated that its something she "needs to talk to the doctor about"

Then again coming from a "smart" position of my brain I'm thinking if I was her and I was going away for 3 weeks without confirmation of exclusivity then I'd be pulling the same shit she is. I.E She's technically pulling once and pushing twice. Making me think about her whilst she's away.

Make sure that you really want HER. If she's irritating you, speak your mind about it. Be honest.

When she tells you "you're annoying me" you can give her a blank stare. No smile, no spoken words, just a look. Then transition into a gaze, get a "i wanna fuck you smile" on your face, get slowly closer and make out.

Or you can bark back and say in a non-serious way "you're annoying me too"

Push her boundaries. Make her tip toe. Keep her on thin ice. I follow the simple principle for relationships/dating. Let her know that she can loose you at any second.

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Will do, sweet advice. She's gone now for 3 weeks. Said she'd message me about how it went with her module assessment. (she hasn't)

What do you recommend for the 3 weeks. Just vague in and out contact sort of thing?

Anyway, I've been informed by a mutual friend (female) that's like a sister to me that she had a chat with her about me a couple days ago that she doesn't like that "he confuses me, he's never straight with me." So presumably in her mind i'm just using her for sex and is starting to raise a shield against me.

What Imma planning is for the next 2-3 weeks. Keep distance but keep up the interest/communication making sure she thinks about and at least knows im thinking about her. When she gets back, spend a day with her, fuck her senseless then after that state my intentions like a man. That I want her and I'm not seeing anyone else.

Well yes. My text game for distance is... keep it light, keep it funny... Like I text this girl I'm meeting next weekend on and off. Once in the morning, at night a few times, and call her once or twice. The calls really makes a difference here. I tease and challenge alot and also play with sexual innuendos.

The important thing... is your intent needs to be clear, and your thoughts, words and actions should project that. Basically it means... be honest as fuck. No filters.

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Agreed, whilst girls do want a male to be "oh god I miss you blahblahblah afcafcafc" its not what they "need" being funny/interesting whilst she's far away just makes her want to get back to you so she can join in. aka missing me
See i'm not very good with this honesty sort of thing as this is the weak part of my inner game. I do have trust issues with girls (due to quite a big situation happening when I was younger with a girl) so I rarely am honest about my intentions especially when she's/I have the ability to protect ourselves with text messages. I would prefer to do my honesty in person with her but is 3 weeks simply too long to wait for the honesty I want to portray to her and that she obviously wants.