-We have sex constantly, and she initiates more than I do
-She will bite my ears, breathe heavy in them, grab me down there
-I will do the same to her, kiss her body everywhere ect.

Then we will have sex and I usually pick the position and she is involved but doesn't move as much as I do, unless she is on top, where she does a lot of work.

She asks me where I want to finish, will swallow almost all the time, lets me go on her face, ect

Since she can only finish from oral/vibrator, after I finish I talk dirty to her as I use the toy on her for like 10 min, she finishes

BUT

Only sometimes will she initiate giving me head, and when she does she will start when I am soft and work it up, then stop after like 30 seconds to a minute. She has said she doesn't like giving them (yet she swallows?)

If I ask her for head she will do the same, 30 seconds to a minute then we move on to sex.

I rarely ask her, but still!

She has made the comment ONCE that sometimes it is just nice to take it during intercourse, and she would be more involved next time. I usually just dominate her physically. She has also once said "I feel like I don't do much"



FELLAS: I have read on here that if a girl doesn't give you head when you want it (which she KINDA does for me) or says she dislikes blowjobs, then she is selfish or not fully in your reality.

If she swallows right after we have intercourse, just because she knows I like it, does this kind of mean that this isn't true in my case?

Have I become too giving over time because it takes more than just sex to get her off?

I don't really go down on her much, only mixed in with the vibrator but admittedly the toy does most of the work.

Ask her whats she likes. Try roleplaying. Tell her to do stuff that requires more active participation on her part, like "ride me and move up and down while you do it." or "play with my balls while im doing you from behind"

Order her around a bit and get her used to not just laying there.

why the heck would she swallow every time I want her to, let her bust on my face, ect, but not give head for more than like 30 seconds before moving on, like she used to from time to time?

I've never expressed that I liked head very much, but it seems like she just does it for a few seconds then thats it now. But as we are banging, a lot of the time she will say do you want me to swallow, i need protein ect LOL

Is swallowing even MORE of a sign she is "in my reality" than performing the act itself for more than 30 seconds? lol

The problem is that youre asking me, not her. You need to interact with your girl and ask why she doesn't give you head for long even though she is eager to swallow. There's an easier way,to find out than asking strangers on the internet.

She sits next to me when we are alone in the house the other day. She gets on my lap, starts straddling, says we should take advantage of the alone time we have.

Then we stop, she mentions how she read that "if people have alot of sex, they don't want it as much because it is too easy." And "I don't want to do it just to do it."

So I asked her, do you mean "it doesn't feel as special?" or "not as horny for it." She said "a little of both."

Now mind you, she initiates the sex 75% of the time, not me. And I generally tease her for a bit before giving in. She isn't necessarily begging, and I rarely totally shut her down, and we have it about twice every time we see each other, which is probably 2-3 times a week. She finishes too and the sex is passionate, but many times for some odd reason I think she tries to initiate when she is not horny enough, or ill try to initiate again after we have it the first time.

So that same day she comes onto me. I tell her not now, we have to wait. She is real horny because she knows I mean it. "you made me wait all week and it has been a few hours, I waited long enough...baby steps" in a real sexual way. She she all but rapes me by sitting on my after taking my pants off. I stop her after a few seconds, say we have to wait, and she gets off playfully frustrated and says "I hate you." Essentially this happens again later that day, and I put it off again. Then we have full blown sex later that day.

The next day she wants it again. I say well I am going to make you wait. She says "I like a challenge sometimes, but I don't want to put a schedule on it, spontaneous too....we should just do what feels natural." So we have sex then. After sex she said "you know yesterday we had it three times, it doesn't count lol."

Basicly I am just going to cut down on giving it to her when she isn't totally warmed up, so that it never becomes a chore right? Even tho she tries to initiate, doesn't necessarily mean she is horny?