I'm having a problem hooking up with women because I'm in my late 30's, and I don't date women with children, and most women my age have children.

I don't date women with children for several reasons:

1. I could form a bond with her children and she could break it off and it's completely realistic I would never see them again.

2. If the relationship progresses and I end up co-habitating with a women with children in the country I live in I could be legally responsible to provide child support to those children even though they are not my own.

3. Women with children just aren't sexy to me. Once a women becomes a mother my perception of her completely changes.

Should I stick to my guns guys or should I give a woman with children a chance?

Hey mate I've dated both all I can say is give them a chance. I've dated women with kids that were cool as hell, and others that were fucking bitches. Who knows you could meet a women that totally blows you away, and the fact that she has a kid won't matter or you could decide ya I do not want to date single mothers. Basically what I'm saying is don't knock it till you tried it.

High maintenance.

But if you took out the kids for skating on the ice rink or at the amusement center, those single moms reciprocate with exceptional blowjobs, muscle control and what have you. It could be a little bit expensive but at the end of the day, or night, or dawn, you're a happy man.

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1.-well women with children usually do not bring the children around till you been with them for a while and they are sure of you.

2.- Why would you co-habitat with a women with children.

3.- in my opinion is silly, but is your personal choice and you are entitled to it.

But yea! it seems to me that you are after a long term relationship so based on the info. go for a women with NO kids. The way around this is to go for younger women, 24-28 range....

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I'm probably going to scare you away, but here's my take (kinda long: ain't nobody got time fo dat) :

I'm physically attracted to MILFs, but being with my wife (which I'm divorcing) did sort of leave a bad taste in my mouth about women with kids. The kids were great, but it seemed we were never really a family, except only when convenient. When it came down to providing for the kids monetarily, we were a family and it was just part of our sacrifices. However, when it came to discipline, studies, and fun activities, they were her kids and I had no say.

I really don't believe that's every woman, but I think it's very likely most women wind up that way because it may be part of their biology, like a Mama Bear complex (is that a thing?). They do everything in their power to give their children everything they want, and they know better than you because those are her children.

Then you have the baby daddy factor. He can either be a nice guy who provides for his children monetarily and plays an active role in their parenting, or he could be a scumbag that doesn't have a decent job because he's been in and out of jail, so you will have to make up for his short-comings and get little-to-nothing from child support. Now, I didn't have a problem with him on a personal level, but there was some resentment built up on my part because he didn't really have to try hard at life since someone's taking care of his baby momma and his kids, so it's all fun and games when he gets them for the weekend.

Then come the kids. Fortunately, in my case, they were really good kids. However, you might wind up with some brats that give you the "You're not my daddy" SPAM. Being a step-dad is not easy.

Don't take my word for it, but if you do decide to pursue something with a woman with kids, do your homework, read books on the matter, and make sure you both are on the same page from the start... basically, don't be a dumbass like me.

I have a question(s) for you though. What is it about them you don't find sexy and what is your perception of them as you say in point 3?

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I made a mistake edited, i meant a woman with no kids...

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I can chime in here, cuz this is something that I am running into in San Antonio, esp with women around my age (like you mentioned). It's definitely hard to find a woman here that is attractive, around my age, and doesn't have children. Last girl I tried to pick up (a couple days ago) was 29, a surgical tech, not interested in school, hot as hell (HB 9), pretty face, had a baby girl and a boyfriend (I got the sense she was genuine). At the end of the conversation I had pretty much lost all interest in number closing and I left it up in the air lol... not that it would have gone anywhere. I don't want to deal with most of her 'baggage.' And I think that's what they partially look for in a man they are with.

I am seeing a woman with kids. We actually just had sex last weekend for the first time She had her ovaries removed so she can't have any more which is a plus (I'm sick yes I know). She basically did everything to arrange us being together, asked for my number, comes over, etc. I knew up front she wanted the D eventually.

You are absolutely right about the support issue. I let her deal completely with the kids, and I even was up front with her about the children support/not wanting marriage.. However, it seems like she is trying to forget about that... Some things she says insinuate that she will eventually want me to take care of them or marry her. Not going to happen! I'm going to remind her again soon.

I recently found out that both children are by different men. Of course that only came out after sex. That makes me feel like another notch on her bed post... isn't that kinda ironic...?

Anyway, besides the kids, she has a ToN of other 'baggage'. I've come to realize, we all do - but she is sick with cancer, so in and out of the hospital a lot (she's only 28) then there's the first ex, who she of course makes out to seem like a douche, and then there's the first baby daddy... sheesh.. what a mess... and I don't know anything about the first guy lol, she never mentioned him till after sex. On top of that she seems to feel bad often, but this is understandable as she has advanced cancer.

I guess the biggest thing to me is as long as you don't get too involved, and don't have to deal with the issues she has, it's not that bad. I have no interest in meeting either of those two guys, and I have been around the children but don't get involved with them too much (go out with them). She seems to understand the relationship is between us and no one else, at least for the moment. So if you are on the same page, that's always good of course.

Where are you located btw? I am hoping to find a place where this isn't common... I'm probably dreaming though...

In order to avoid this problem your best option is to get the while they are young and untainted, I guess that would mean around college. Most women, even the unattractive ones, were in serious relationships/getting married circa/post college. I picked up a girl in the Academy a week ago when I was shoe shopping, she was awesome, but after several days of texting she doesn't respond... Next! But it's not like it's all that better because there are problems with young girls as well....

Guys i dated tons of women with children again the key is to have them as fuck buddy, women on the side, do not make them your main girl... As long as you do that you are fine.

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This one is almost half a ton:

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And another...

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Tons = At the very least 2 tons

Probably, Skills360 dated around 5 girls like these at the minimum.

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This is call projection, but i would be exaggerating if i say is projecting, since you are clearly a virgin... This is the dude that advise to go sarging at banks for rich women...

Hellhound, number 1 i have gone out with people from the community, have you?

I have gotten dudes laid directly from my advise have you?

I have fucked more women in a week than you in your lifetime.

Better yet, how about we hang out together i am in South Florida, since you have so much money from your sargin women at banks, how about, you put some of that money to good use and meet me in person, we go out for a weekend, if you do better than me, i will give you 2k dollars, and will quit the forum forever. Let me know if interested...

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Of course I know you're telling the truth that you've dated tons of women.

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....... LOL

You guys are funny. Why rage/e-fight on this internet forum? We are here for the same reasons.

Plus, it's not like dating means shit... and after a certain age/experience, sex doesn't mean much either.

Haven't read all the replies but here's my take from a guy also in his 30's.

- Girls with kids are easier to bed: They don't have much time to socialize so don't meet as many guys, and some of the ones they meet won't go down the "single mom" path at all, so their options are far less than childless girls yet many are just as hot and maybe even hornier.

- When the kids are asleep, she needs stress relief: After 9pm when the kids are asleep the mom can't leave the house and is bored, after a hard day of mothering she finally has some time to herself and is dying for some stress relief, 9pm - midnight is MILF "someone come fuck me now" time. So if you get in with the milf, you can get laid every night, because every night they stuck at home bored and horny.

- They are realistic about their options: Girls with kids know guys prefer childless females and have lower expectations when it comes to the possibility of advancing the relationship. This means that single moms are more accustomed to being used for sex and have grown to accept the fact, so she is less likely to entertain the idea of advancing the relationship and also less likely to get clingy. On the same token, she actually values being used for sex more than childless girls because she has the same needs but less options and a narrower time period, and is less likely to push the boundaries in fear of losing her late night stress relief.

If you want a hassle free fuck buddy, MILFs are a good option.

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Dude ROFL @ the truths!!! My MILF was drunk texting me when she was out with her friends so obv all her coupled friends made her horny! I realized she is perfect in most ways except that she has kids. She can't have kids, has to be a mother for her children (can't go out much/has less interest from guys) & is sexy... She also has cancer so I feel bad for her but again it narrows her options

But you made me realize that since I have been rejected by MILFs before I should feel 3x as bad about it than a rejection by a woman without kids, seeing as she should accept me more readily as she should have lower standards.... lmao!

Then why not just don't women who are younger? You can have it all man, but if the kids are completely against your boundaries I don't even see how thats an option.

Its like if I said " I don't date women who are 500 LB, but all the women in my area are 500 LB.. Would should I do? "

I'd either have to get with the program, be alone or move somewhere in which I can be around the women I like. The situation isn't going to change so change the situation.

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