Hey guys,

I recently went out with a girl from work, and need some insight/advice. I'll try to keep this as short as I can. There's a new girl at work, she started about a month ago, I haven't really talked to her much at work, but for some reason she invited me out to her cousin's bday outing a couple Friday's ago. I was really surprised because we rarely talk at work. Went out had a good time, had a few drinks, didn't think anything about it, went home for the night. She texted me the next day at 11 am the next day asking if I was coming out again on Sat, I said I'd think about it. Went out Sat the next day, I felt like shit from the night before and showed zero interest in her, she kept rubbing up on me, put my arm in hers, danced on me, I'm interested in her, but I wasn't feeling it that night.

I text her the next week tell her we should hangout. She says ok, but will let me know if she changes her mind. She texts me through the day saying shes in the dumps because she's fat, fishing for compliments I Don't bite..We go out the following Sat, with her cousin and her cousin's bf, have a few drinks and laughs, and I see her cousin looking over smiling a lot. Then though out the night her cousin's bf acts like an asshole to her cousin. All I hear from the girl I was with was what assholes guys are. The girl is pissed the rest of the night, closed posture, doesn't talk, I take off early that night, tell her I'll talk to her later. I think to myself, next.

She texted me again Monday says she is going out Fri with a bunch of people from work and if I want to go. I tell her no, but I'm sure she will ask again. I've been out of the game for a long time, but I think she wants me to be interested, but also isn't available. We don't really talk except at work about patients, and very little talking when we've went out. I really don't get why she keeps texting me to do stuff, then doesn't really talk much once we are out. Should I just forget about it, and give it the deep 6?

I think if you are in the position of just getting through a divorce and are starting fresh, it's awesome that you have a cute girl that wants to hang out. Use it to your advantage. Go out and party. If she goes out with you and shows no interest, return the favor and start talking to other people while your out. If she is acting all pissy, tell her you are going to get a drink and go grab a drink and get started with a conversation with someone on the way back. A girl or group of girls preferably, but even just chatting it up with a group of guys or something is enough to get the point across. That her acting pissy turns you off and doesn't get her any attention. Let her understand that she is not your only option and that as an alpha male it is her job to show that she is interested in you. It is your job to show her that you are not some beta that is there only to listen to her problems and to accompany her when she doesn't have anything better to do.