HEY PUA's

This is my first message on this forum... anyways here goes

I've been into this "game" for about two months. I am still an AFC with the usual problems that follow, but i have managed to chance some things, but still got a long way to go.

I got a number close two weeks ago. I was chatting up this girl in a bar and it went really well. She was moving to the area i live in, and i told her that i would show here where all the got places was. It's not the most exciting place and everyone in CPH knows that, but I managed to turn it into a fun joke with seightseeing of all the AMAZING places and she seemed hooked. I left because my friends were leaving and i did the "how can we continue this conversation".

Then a few days later she wrote to me, saying that she had now moved and asked when i could take her around the place. I've read that you should'nt make an actual date, and that a normal weekday was better, because it showed her that your a bussy man. We met and i showed her the beach (it's freezing SPAM but very beautiful), and afterwards we went for a drink in a local bar. The chemestry was very good and she made some IOI's, like doing the same movements as me, and general positive body language, looking me into my eyes ect... Again I had read that you should be the one ending the date so your don't come of as needy, so after the drink we chatted some more and then when i was about to say that i had to go, she asked my if I wanted another beer ( bought the first round). Of course i said yes, "but only a small one", and she came back with two large beers.I took that as a sign that she was interested so I DHV some more and listened to her stories. After this we were both not drunk, but kinda tipsy or whatever you call it.

I followed her to the metro (should have taken her hand and tried some kino, but the AFC was still in my head arg). I kissed her goodbye (on the cheek) and we went our separate ways.

Later that night i wrote to her saying thanks for a good night (was that a mistake?)she answered that she had a really nice time.
Next day we wrote again in the evening (she wrote to me first). She seemed kind of interested, but then again not completely won over. I finished the text-conversation saying goodnight sweet (name). She wrote back: Right back at you... which wasn't what i had hoped for.

Now what is the next step. my first thought is that i won't write to her. She has to contact me so i don't come of as needy. She is properly more attractive than me if that matters on what to do next.
Other than that, did you spot any major mistakes?

*btw sorry for my bad english.

It looks to me like you are focusing too much on the super fine details and tried way too hard to play things by the book ("I read that you're supposed to do XXX"). The problem with that is that it's taking all your focus off of the big picture and causing you to stress out and micromanage everything. I'll probably get tarred and feathered for saying this, but believe me when I say that you don't need to read some stupid pick-up books to learn how to seduce properly. Here's all you need to do: be a confident leader, be funny yet charming, know how to escalate with kino, and get used to having to step out of your comfort zone and hold her hand or kiss her. Any time you get nervous, do a quick count to 3 in your head and JUST DO IT. No more thinking about it. Just do it on the count of 3. You could have done that with the hand holding, the kissing on the lips rather than cheek, etc. And you needed to build more kino throughout the day. And finally, instead of trying to overanalyze her body language and things like that, you should have been living in the moment and trying to have fun instead. You'd be amazed at how effectively that will rub off on her.

As for the texting, you clearly sent some of those texts with an expected outcome that did not turn out the way you intended. You wanted her to show you some kind of validation or security, but she didn't and now you feel worse. Your text was also inconsistent with your kino earlier in the day (not holding her hand, yet calling her sweet via text), which just comes off as looking needy.

Thanks for the great advice. I totally agree on the part of me "thinking too much" which has been a problem all my life, and is properly one of the biggest problems i have to solve. I haven't wrote to her since that last message, and she hasn't been writing to me either. Is this one gone or is there something i can do to get this one going again without seeming needy?

Whenever you find yourself asking that question, just remember that you have nothing to lose. Ever. Call her up and see if she's interested in getting some drinks later in the week. Setting up an actual "date" (as long as you don't actually call it that, since that's kind of weird) is completely fine, so don't worry about what it looks like. You're conveying to her that you are attracted to her and are interested in getting to know her. There's nothing needy or unmanly about that at all.

Again thanks for the advice. Here is a little follow-up!

I choose to lay low and not contact her, until after the weekend, but last night she contacted me to hear how i was doing. I called her up and invited her over to share a pizza and a bottle of wine tomorrow evening when i was free, and she was keen to go

That's great! Let me know how things turn out.

She got sick, i got sick, but we are going to see each other this wednesday I have started to see another girl too! She's i really nice so let's just see what is going to happen with everything. BTW had a crazy experience this weekend where i f* closed and HB9 (third girl lol) so everything is great. I will properly write a post in the bragging area!

Thanks for all the great advice, it's much appreciated and will for sure be needed in the future too. (especielly the 3 second rule has helped me a lot!)