Want to turn my ex into my FB without feelings



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PostPosted: Tue Feb 25, 2014 4:17 pm 
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We dated for about 6 months & we broke up about 2 months ago because I cheated on her with 2 girls.
When I think of her I know I want to have her in my life but not as a girlfriend. Cause we aren't made for each other & I don't want to fall in love with her again.
I just want to fuck her. On a regular basis. And i THINK she's into that idea aswell. I'm not sure.

We're meeting up for drinks next week & I would appreciate some advice on how to handle this.


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PostPosted: Tue Feb 25, 2014 4:24 pm 
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This is pretty simple. You've had sex with her before, so the topic isn't off limits. Just make the offer by saying something like:

We are obviously still good friends because we can hang out like this. You like sex with me and I like sex with you, so we can still do that until one of us finds someone else.

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PostPosted: Tue Feb 25, 2014 4:49 pm 
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how do I avoid falling in love with her again? what kind of attitude or mind/set will I need to put in action?


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PostPosted: Tue Feb 25, 2014 4:58 pm 
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how do I avoid falling in love with her again? what kind of attitude or mind/set will I need to put in action?
That's the risk your taking by having her as a FB. One of you WILL catch feelings. And honestly, if you're afraid of catching feelings...you more than likely already have them.

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PostPosted: Tue Feb 25, 2014 5:16 pm 
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Hey mate just going by your post I'm gonna advise against making her your fb simply because you have too much emotional attachment. I was in a similar situation I was dating a girl we broke up I liked her and a couple weeks later I thought about giving her a call or texting her, but decided against it because I couldn't emotionally detach myself from the outcome, and felt it could do more harm than good. If I were you I don't think I would have even set up the date. However if you think you can detatch yourself emotionally then I'd say go for it if not I'd say don't.


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PostPosted: Tue Feb 25, 2014 7:15 pm 
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I'll add one question: what if they haven't had sex? How much should the approach change?


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PostPosted: Wed Feb 26, 2014 4:07 am 
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If you were in a serious(er) relationship than I think that it's likely unreasonable to request that for the following reason:

Girls can't compartmentalize emotions the way dudes can.

I've gone through two similar experiences and i realized that my insistence on staying in the picture was totally unfair to her. When I realized this (imo, part of becoming a pua is understanding women) I pushed the frame as such that I was not leaving, getting kicked out, or running away but rather being fair to her.... which is what I think gracefully leaving is.

Remember: leave the woman better than she was before.

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PostPosted: Wed Feb 26, 2014 1:22 pm 
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Yes, I know. I was just giving a possibility. There are girls that feel strong about not having sex for the first months of a relationship (usually these girls have trust issues) and i wondered how you could manage to have sex with them at the early stages of the relationship.
I don't care if it's unlikely, but there still are and in case I'm gonna find some of these girls I want to know how I should move :)


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PostPosted: Wed Feb 26, 2014 4:08 pm 
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When you do meet her, try not to go for sex. Establish a purely "lets just be friends" vibe. Its important that you don't bring up why you broke up or mention anything about the break up, keep it light hearted. You do want to let her know how you're enjoying life and how things have changed for the better, but nothing regarding getting back into a relationship with her or with other girls either. You MUST set up a second meet. This second meet has to be somewhere with good logistics. At this second meet up you can start the kino escalation, sexual inuendos, etc.

As a reminder, do not make the mistake of talking about a possible friends with benefits relationship on the first meetup, and if possible try not to have sex in that meetup.

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PostPosted: Wed Feb 26, 2014 4:38 pm 
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So basically you are saying to slow down everything?


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