So what are some guidelines for when a girl says she "needs space."

Do i have to wait for her to contact me?
Can i contact her in X amount of Weeks?

Thoughts?

Also when a girl says this does she usually end up calling you back, or does she not want to see you again.

Are you in a relationship with this girl or just casually dating?

The guideline is to find someone else. Once you've reached the stage where a girl wants some space then usually the only time you will rekindle her interest is when she sees you with another girl. Even then the same thing will happen again if you get back together.

Not always true. Sometimes the girl will see you with another girl/another girl showing interest and come to the realisation that "oh shit, he can get with other girls if he wants to" and thus chase you. All you have to do is run your "relationship/spending time with her" game differently.

i.e. give her more excitement the second time around.

It means you've been smothering her.

It means you're way more invested in her than she is in you (why is that?).

It means that you should focus on something other than her, and let the chips fall as they may.

I wouldn't hit her up until she hits you up.

Good luck friend.

To make a long story short i messaged this girl on facebook for a few days. She is very cute, big boobs, nice face, ect. We talk for a few days on facebook, eventually she gives me her number. Soon we are texting. Soon after that we are talking on the phone. Next thing u know were are talking about what we like to do in bed, we are sending semi nude pictures to each other. She lives about an hour away so one day she text me saying she wants to meet up at this bar in my area on a Saturday. I agree

So Saturday comes around and we meet up at the bar. She brings a friend i bring a friend. We see each other for the first time in real life, we exchange hugs, i spin her around to check her out. She looks great. We talk and drink for about 30 minutes. I am whispering in her ear, she is laughing having a good time. She even holds my hand underneath the table. It was cute. Soon we take shots and start dancing. We are grinding, dancing for a while then she eventually looks me in the eyes. I kiss her on the dance floor. We continue dancing.

She eventually tells me that she doesn't like public displays of affection. Kinda strange cus holding hands is a PDA, i guess its the kissing at the bar part. So we dance some more, she keeps holding my hand. Eventually i have to go home so i go upto her, kiss her and say im leaving. Everything seems alright.

I text her the next day saying it was great seeing her. No response. I end up texting her again a day later. She replies the next day saying that she felt "uncomfortable Saturday and that i was too aggressive." She said that she doesn't "hate me" but needs "space." This is very strange coming from a girl who was talking about hoe she likes to be tied up, man handled, and drilled doggy style. I apologized for being a aggressive but then explained that she was so cute that i had to kiss her when the opportunity arose.


So we were casually dating i guess. I wasn't that aggressive. Thoughts

I didn't smother her at all. Overall my game was solid. Thoughts

Your game was solid but why did you leave? You should have tried to F-Close. When your bumping and grinding, whisper in her ear and tell her how much you want to fuck her. Never be afraid to show a girl you have a penis.

And don't apologize for it. You can spin it around and tll her how horny she makes you. It will undoubedly boost her ego.

Needing space can mean any number of things:
-you guys are constantly at each other/fighting and she needs a reprieve to gain some clarity
-she's having thoughts of being by herself (if she has an avoident attachment style, for example)
-she's having thoughts of being with someone else

At the end of the day grant her the space if that's what she's asking for. The more you do the opposite, that is try and 'fix', the more you'll push her away. Stay busy, use the opportunity to get in touch again with your own needs that aren't dependent on any one person. Sometimes just giving space can be exactly what's needed (you'll find out one way or other if the relationships going to continue or not).

Logistically i couldn't that night. I definitely wanted to. I didn't do anything over the top and I haven't been smothering her. It's just confusing how invested she was before and how she said she wanted space after. I thought we had a great interaction, worthy of a 2nd more intimate date.

Judging from what you've spoken about and from past experiences myself.

Shes a fucking mental.

Stay clear.

Yo you had me rolling with that comment bro

The whole situation is so backwards haha

Thats women mate especially mental ones. Don't get me wrong, they're amazing in bed. My last one did the same as yours. Messaged me ALOT telling me she likes to be tied up and dominated. I did just that, did her doggy style, tied her up, spanked her, pulled her hair, forced her to look in a mirror whilst I called her every name under the sun. Made her cum so easily too.

FUCKING MENTAL THO. Randomly started crying during sex once, then said she was going to leave and that she didn't want to see me again. I just went for a cigarette...did she leave, no. Came outside, said she was sorry and that she didn't want to leave. I had shit like that FOR AGES.

The sex is great but in the long run its not worth the pain and misery weird mind games bring.

Yeah, I retract my previous statement lol

She might just be crazy. You described your interaction as pretty straightforward and genuine.