| Hey Guys,
Have you ever had this happen? Because I seem to be getting this quite a bit lately.
You go out on a first date with a girl; it goes great; you might even be talking at a place over drinks for 4+ hours!
You have every indication that there’ll be a second date. She tells you this. She maybe even texts you this later that night.
Then she drops off the radar.
You’re not crazy about the follow-up texts, maybe one mid-day the following day, and if you don’t hear anything after that, another one like 3-4 days later asking if everything’s okay.
Eventually you end up txting her that you guys could’ve had a great time but if she wants to flake and disappear like that, then best of luck to her.
But here’s the kicker:
After radio silence for some 2 weeks, She ALWAYS texts you back after your final message with something like,
“Hey my phone’s been dead, and I just got all your texts. WOW! I’m shocked. I was going to txt you back about another date but then I saw all of this stuff you wrote. Yeah, you definitely have some issues and I don’t think we’d be good for a second date."
Bull-fucking-shit.
First-off, a reasonably attractive girl is not going to have a dead cell-phone for a week and a half! It’s going to be ringing off the hook all the time! Tons of dudes, orbiters, and girls will be texting her day and night!
But it can be some variation, like, “I had to go out of town and didn’t have my phone with me, now I’m suddenly getting all of your texts, and WOW! You’ve got a problem.”
I’ll grant that a girl may legitimately have phone issues if she hasn’t gotten back to me after a 2nd text a week later; I don’t even send a freakish amount of txts to her, maybe 4 over a 3 week period.
But it’s ALWAYS this one text at the very end that gets an immediate write-back, like 20 seconds later, claiming that she just now got all of your texts and read them, and that you look like a creep for texting her so much.
So I’m like, “Oh! NOOOOW I hear back from her!”
I’ve even caught a girl in a lie because it was confirmed from mutual friends that she had been texting people the rest of that night and week with no problem at all, so I called her on it, she didn’t know what to say.
But in the case of last night, the girl actually showed me her phone, and how her last date just sent her a flood of texts for like a week. This guy was clearly nuts and a creep. He was starting the day with stuff like, "Hey, how's it going", ending the afternoon with, "So how's your week so far", ...when she was not writing back at all. So she's got a track-record of doing that at least, but then again this guy legitimately seemed like a creep
Have you guys ever seen this? What the fuck is the deal here?
A female friend said that "all of those texts" probably creeped her out and she got uncomfortable about seeing me again, or that she was just being nice about the second-date thing, even though, as I said, she seemed pretty enthusiastic and adamant about it.
Wouldn't she just know that a guy would be following up if she tells him he's getting a second date?
"If a girl likes you, she would've been texting you back. And girls aren't going to wait around for you to text" - this friend told me.
Okay, fair enough, I said, but if she's seeing a lot of guys and I've kind of been moved down the queue, wouldn't she think, "Well, he hasn't written me again lately so he must've just moved on (even if she never replied)
WTF gives?!?!
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