Ok, so I live in a more rural area, but I can't drive. Me and my friend from high school work together and he drives me. It's not that I can't learn, or I'm scared, but there's something wrong with my vision that keeps me from driving (at higher speeds my vision messes up and I lose objects and distances appear off, there is nothing that can be done surgically). Driving is %100 out.

I've only dated one girl because of this. Even when I think a girl is interested in me, I don't know how to ask her out. I mean, how do you say "I don't have a car... how about you come pick me up Tuesday". It seems unspeakably lame to me, but I don't know what else to do. I don't want to wait until I'm at university or maybe even later and live in a major city before I can get anywhere.

How do I do this? How do I ask a girl out in a way where she'll get me?

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I would chop my dick off and move to the forest. you know, since yesterday my opinion changed. - bartm
A chick can have an ugly to average face but if she's skinny, that's a guaranteed 6. - HT23VWY67

Honestly, wait til you're at college. Life was simple at high school, I was a virgin until I was 17. I have happy memories of high school even though i wasnt getting laid. There's no rush to get laid, just learn to be happy with being yourself and you'll be way ahead of the competition by the time you hit college.

If you're that desperate to get laid, organise a house party at your place (or a buddy's) and invite girls and local chodes.

I'm going to a community college for the first two years(I'll still be at home). And I'm already 18(three months to graduation).
I really do not want to go the next two and a half years single.

I'm not so much looking to "get laid" as to get a girlfriend. Yes, sex is a component of that, but it's maybe %30-40 of it.

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I would chop my dick off and move to the forest. you know, since yesterday my opinion changed. - bartm
A chick can have an ugly to average face but if she's skinny, that's a guaranteed 6. - HT23VWY67

Can you ride a bicycle or is that also too fast?

If you move to a downtown or where all the clubs/bar are you can just walk or bike there.

Also, with Google maps, you could just use public transits. It is cheaper than a car.

Google maps is awesome at getting you anywhere you want.

Rural.
We don't have public transportation.

I live 15 miles from the nearest major city(population of 100,000).
Heck, I live 10 miles from the nearest little shopping center. 3000 people live in my town.

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I would chop my dick off and move to the forest. you know, since yesterday my opinion changed. - bartm
A chick can have an ugly to average face but if she's skinny, that's a guaranteed 6. - HT23VWY67

Hoesntly, I would focus on school and getting to that next step, rather than getting a girlfriend or what not. If you find a girl that wont go out with you just because you dont have a car, what type of girl is she anyways? pretty much worthless girl. do you really want that type of girlfriend? I wouldnt. how many girlfriends had you have before? not having a girlfriend for 2 years is not the end of the world. You are still young and will have plenty of oppertunities for this. Prioritize your self first, rather than just "wanting" a girl friend. As for your original question, no you dont need a car to game a girl. Might need it to go see her but as for the gaming part, No.

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I've never had a girl tell me she wouldn't date me because I don't have a car. I've never really asked anyone out, because I can't think of how to approach it.
One.
I don't know what the hell kind of advise "Why don't you try two and a half years of forced celibacy" is on a forum that's about picking up women.
What is this supposed to mean? I have a decent job, good grades and I have a solid profession picked out. I just can't drive.

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I would chop my dick off and move to the forest. you know, since yesterday my opinion changed. - bartm
A chick can have an ugly to average face but if she's skinny, that's a guaranteed 6. - HT23VWY67

I don't know, I think having a car is a very basic necessity depending on where you live. It might be hard to imagine if you live in a city where public transport is available and walking is a viable option, but in rural areas it's pretty much expected that everyone has a car.

If you have a friend who has a car and regularly goes to bars/clubs to pick up chicks, then you can tag along with him to all the places. At the club, get the girl's number. When you set up a date, ask her if she can pick u up (if she has a car and it's not too far from where she is)

Can you afford to rent an apartment inner city?

I'm not planning to move right now.
Right, this is what I was asking about. How do I do this exactly? I want it to come off as like... not really lame.

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I would chop my dick off and move to the forest. you know, since yesterday my opinion changed. - bartm
A chick can have an ugly to average face but if she's skinny, that's a guaranteed 6. - HT23VWY67

There's your problem...

Stop thinking about it like it's some type of problem or short-coming of yours. Laugh it off. If a girl asks about it, meaning it becomes a real problem vs one that you made up in your head, tell her you got arrested for street racing or a midget stripper stole your car... make something up. Who cares?

Don't let your whip game determine your worth as a man dude. Be the type of man that women want to come pick up and hang out with you... They'll do it. You'll be amazed the type of shit women will do for some good dick man... Getting them to pick you up is only a big deal if you think it is...

I know it's not a big deal. Which is why I think the advise to move or remain celibate for 2+ years is ridiculous advise. My best friend's hot older sister is dating a guy who hasn't had a job in two years. She drives him everywhere and even buys him pot. However, a lot of girls think a guy with no car is a loser.

And that's why I just wonder how to approach it.

I mean, I've always read that the best way to ask a girl on a date is to pick a place and time and ask her... but can I still do that when I don't have a car?
And how does it affect things like date choice? I mean, it seems to me like asking a girl out to coffee seems too light if she's going to have to drive for ten minutes to pick me up, you know? Is there like a base time expectation I should set? I somehow feel like shopping dates are very compatible with this situation.

And on the date itself, I mean, I read that you should always split the bill 50/50 on the first date... but if she's my ride, does that change?

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I would chop my dick off and move to the forest. you know, since yesterday my opinion changed. - bartm
A chick can have an ugly to average face but if she's skinny, that's a guaranteed 6. - HT23VWY67

if you really want to get laid then a car shouldnt be an excuse.
create a plan, develop a routine, create a lifestyle based on what you have.
If you walk, discover your surroundings and see whats cool around your area.
invite a girl to come to that place take pictures, take a drink. [keep her entertained]
Go for a bike ride, hike , go to the venues around your house.
In the end she won't dislike you for not having a car, as longest as your game is tight she will be coming to you, cause your not like all others.

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