So I had this happen to me where I tried to ask this girl out on a certain day and she said she had plans to go out to a club that night. She works long hours so her day off is the only day I really get to see her. So I was bummed that she was gonna hang with her friends. So she was busy and I had to cut bait for that plan. At 1 am that night she is texting me asking me to come over to see her. Now this was on a sat night too. So I was wondering how to handle this because although it is good when a woman went out drinking and she wants you at the end of the night. But on the other hand she didn't want to see me initially. I just thought that being available on a late saturday night would make me seem like I'm not desirable.

I ended up just ignoring the text. If it was a weekday I would have went over. But I was wondering how you guys handle a woman who could have gone out with you but calls you at the end of the night? Should I have gone over or just have her think I was out having fun?

You missed out on the lay, but you dhv'd by not answering showed you have better things to do then be at her beckon call. I'd text her tomorrow and say something like. Hey missed your txt was out with some friends. What sort of craziness do you have planned tonight??

Another thing I don't know your situation with this girl, but if she's only gonna text you when she's drunk or after she's just got back from a party and you're just an after thought don't be her doormat. Like I said I don't know your situation with her just throwing that out there.

Good luck!

I don't know, if I thought I could get a lay out of it I would have text back and gone for it. Especially if all I wanted from her was sex. Texting back doesn't necessarily mean you weren't out having a fun night. I suppose it shows some value in the sense that you don't look needy.