| hey guys, its been a while,
so the last few months i have been addicting myself to my studies in college and although i did get laid my social life has taken a serious hit. here's my situation:
in highschool i was friends with "the cool kids" and the geeks too, but i hang out mostly with the cool kids. then they started being really elitists and although i was the most elitist at first, later on i started to get discussed by that posture and stopped hanging out with them so much. i was kind of fucked cuz although i was friends with the geeks too, their social life wasn't really as cool and when i started hanging out with them i realized i was more about parties and clubs, and they were more like chilled low key gatherings, often all boy gatherings.
so as i left the cool kids group voluntarily, i was able to come back a little bit but school was over soon after and although i have been to clubs and parties with them every once in a while, i don't see them much. and when i do, my social status at that group i can feel has been lowered. it was a very jerarquical group with a clear leader that was not me and that always annoyed me cuz growing up that kid that was leader in the group when we finished school was of MUCH lower value than me, and after many fuckups on my part i lowered my social value a lot.
so when i got to college here in argentina i got into engineering, and i met some cool people which became my new friends and i started hanging out with them, as well as the geeky group from high school, and sometimes the cool kids from high school.
as college progressed, many of the kids i met the first semester dropped out, and the social group we had created started to dissolve as we started to take different classes and see less and less of one another, and it still exists but much weaker and we don't get together as often.
i do see my geek friends from school still but they don't wanna go out much, and the cool kids from high school have almost dissolved completely their group. i haven't seen them in 6 months almost.
so now i have friends but they are all scattered and i don't have a social group of friends i can constantly go out with, which has fucked up my social life, specially now on summer when most of the guys from college go home to their home towns and i have no one to go out with exept my geek high school friends that don't really like doing so and its a fucking pain to get them out of the house.
what can i do?? i tried organizing a party at my place but its too far away from town so very few people could make it and although it was fun, it was kind of depressing to me to see how few of them actually turned up and how hard it was for the groups from high school and college to merge and have fun together. my college friends are snobbish aristocrats or argentine elite, and my high school friends hippies and artists! they didn't have anything to talk about, im feeling trapped and kinda lonely at times...
anyone with experience having trouble finding friends to go out with??
how did you solve this?
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