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why wouldn't she want to help me get hard when we were this close to having sex?
That is 100% correct, and I'm not patting you on the back like a bro here - that is genuinely fucked up, and more to do with lack of understanding between the sexes. How old is she?
HOWEVER, when she made that comment, it may not have had to go downhill from there.
I have had a lot of sexual experiences, and now to get hard I need to have a certain level of interest. I compare it to when I was very young and would get hard at anything, it's only natural to get used to things and want more. It's like if you've never had a girlfriend, and you'd date anyone who showed interest, and as you get more experienced, you don't get interested unless they show a certain level of intelligence, passion for similar topics, etc. etc.
So I always have the attitude, if it's not hard enough, you're not working hard enough for it. (That's in line with some old PUA advice, to flip the problem around too, not all of the old advice is so bad) I don't actually say those words, I just take on that attitude. What I say is more in the moment.
It could very well be, that, with the right, confident response from you at that moment, she would have been shocked in to reality that, maybe it's HER that's the problem, and suddenly you'd have her working hard for it, and that itself would turn you on even more.
One thing we can always be certain of, if you respond to anything in a low-confidence way, it's not going to go as well as if you respond with high confidence.
I like to watch videos of people who just never seem to be phased by different outcomes, they're in their own world. Some of my inspirations are Jack Sparrow, Commander Riker (from Star Trek, another ladies man), and someone from real life - Toby Turner, on YouTube - when he walks around live blogging, any awkward moments, they just don't phase him! As far as he's concerned, they never happened!
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