Hello everyone,

I just got out of a 4 year relationship, and am finally back in the dating game! I recently met this fantastic girl, that I have virtually everything in common with.

I used to be pretty sharp in the dating game back before I got into this long relationship and it seems that I've forgotten what to do and how to act. I know I'm still in the "rebound mode" in my head and don't want to have that come off as desperation. I've been keeping myself in check for the most part, but my head is somewhat cloudy as to how to act and pursue without driving her away.

We recently had our first date, and things couldn't have gone better. She is very adventurous so I had a fantastic date planned with speed boats and a dinner at this resort that she had never been too. The date ended with a nice long kissing session, and I could see her texts between her mom about how cute I was, etc. So the interest seems to be there.

She immediately facebook messaged me the next day about how she had a great time, but that she was getting very ill. This has all transpired since Sunday, and we've been sending the short teasing messages between each other about once a day since then.

So anyway, I'd like to call her tonight and set up our next date, but as mentioned above, I don't want to come off as desperate or moving too fast. However I want to strike while the iron is hot. I was thinking of opening the conversation with seeing how she was feeling and go from there. Short and sweet I know is the best policy.

Here is the catch though:

She lives 2 hours away, which would normally be a deal breaker for me, but I've never met someone who I've had so much in common with, so I'd like to continue and see where it goes. She already mentioned about a week ago that she was booked this weekend so that combined with her sickness may be an indicator for me to wait until next week to set something up. Our next date will most likely be skydiving (both of our ideas), with a guitar session after, so perhaps her looking forward to that will jossle her emotions in the meantime.

The facebook messages have been funny and rare enough to continue the anticipation and attraction, but somewhat feel like calling her will be a little more personal and have more of an effect.

This wknd sounds out... Sick AND busy... Why not give her a call anyway, though? You're allowed to just... call and chat.

Hell if she's actually sick just call and say you're checking up on how she's feeling. Good excuse.

You don't have to ask her out - poke around and see if you can get a feel for whether she'd be up for something and when... pay attention to her answers and look for some queues.

Maybe she will be available?