Due to a lack of escalation on my part, I think I've found myself in the friendzone with this girl. We've been out on about 3 dates now and after our most recent one (and me not making a move), I'm pretty confident the chances of me getting with her are pretty slim...at least for the time being.

It's been a while since I've actually been friendzoned so I'm not really sure what happens now. I think this girl is awesome and I enjoy hanging out with her, however, I'm very aware of the steps I need to take if I want to attempt to escape the friendzone (the most important one being to cut contact with her for a while).

However, how do I do this if I've built so much rapport with her that she texts me almost every day? I mean, it seems a bit odd to go from texting daily to zero contact for no reason, doesn't it? She initiates about 90% of the time, so I would feel weird ignoring her.

Any advice on how to handle this?

If she is still initiating that much she still has interest. Stop over thinking and get her alone and make your move, unless she says "let's just be friends" then why assume you are friend zoned. You know what you have been doing wrong now do things differently.

I've been friend-zoned a lot, but the fact that you are even worried about it means that you are on the wrong track. You need to physically escalate the next time you are in person with her (not fuck her, just make her think of you in a sexual way). Also, you might be too responsive to her texts. Be willing to lose her if need be, but you cannot allow yourself to be her best buddy who is always there for her.

Yes I'm very conscious to not make myself into too much of a buddy to her. And I'm a little confused because I feel there are many signs that show I'm not actually in the friendzone (we only go out 1 on 1 never with friends, she texts me almost every day and even if I let the conversation die she'll re-initiate a few hours later, she gets dressed up really nice when we hang out, she's never flaked on me/always accepts my invites out, she always asks me personal questions about myself and my interests, she comments/likes almost everything I post on facebook/instagram, etc.)

However, at the same time, she doesn't really respond to any of my kino, she mentions she's shy when she likes a boy, and she recently started talking about guys that she has 'semi-crushes' on (possibly to make me jealous/shit test).

If I look at my relationships with girls that I'm actually friends with, it doesn't feel the same way. Not because I obviously like this girl, but because of the way she acts around me.

I think I may be second-guessing myself or even putting myself into the friendzone because she's not reacting to my kino/advances as girls have done in the past. So it's confusing me a little.

Invite her over to watch a movie with you at your place. this is my favorite date, it allows you to generate kino and comfort. Push through man.