Hello all,

So last night went to a mates house party. It was packed tight, fucking mental. Anyway meet this girl there who easily a hb9 bordering on 10. Its obvious from the get go that shes up for something as constantly laughing at everything I said, found any excuse to touch me, would respond with flirtatious banter if I negged her and made me introduce her to the people I came with.

So we go for another dance and this is when I go for k-close, k-close successful. Get off with her for a fair bit then go for n-close. This is where I get confused

Me: So give me your number then.
Her: Nah, you don't need it just yet. I'll see you at the next party.

She then turns around and cooly walks away. I'm a bit "what the fuck?" but say fuck it and start gaming other girls. N-Close a couple others but nowhere as fit as that girl. She sees me chatting to other girls but no real reaction. Then she just disappears.

What did I do wrong?/any suggestions or advice.

Shit test... which you failed.

Okay fair, what would have been the way to pass it.

Laughed and gave her a cheeky smile then kiss her again and get sexual. Later on i'd take my phone out and tell her to put her number in it.

At a party people are trying to have fun (obviously). Just because she was interested in you then doesn't mean she was looking for a day-2 , which you very much so implied by asking for digits.
Hence the "See you at the next party"



Getting the number is something that helps you towards the F-close in various ways.
But you're at a party and already got the K-close , you don't think "OK , # next " , you think "OK , F-close next".
If and only if the F-close cannot be done for whatever reason should you go to plan B , which is #-closing.



Doing what Games suggests probably would've gotten you the number , but you shouldn't have gone for it just about yet in the first place.

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Should've tried to F-close same night. No big deal though, game her soon when "you see her at the next party"

This girl has good game.


You'd need more than a "cheeky smile" and to ask later to pass that test - you'd be responding to her frame if you did that. The ideal situation for you here would be to immediately turn it around on her. It's a tough thing to counter on your toes, but here are some ideas off the top of my head - all to be said in the standard half-playful, half-"I don't really give a shit" tone:

Her: Nah, you don't need it just yet. I'll see you at the next party.

You: will be trying to say: "I'll think about it, but I might not be as interested in you next time."

So here are some ideas:

"I wont need it then either - this is your one chance here- take it or leave it (this sounds kind of serious, so you have to make sure your tone is right to show that you ultimately don't care which way she responds)"

"My phonebook's going to be full by the next party. Trust me - I won't be accepting your number by that time. You'll have to reapply next year."

"Next party? Okay I'll hold my breath until then. Cya." (Said as non-chalantly as possible, followed by a slight smile and a casual walk-off).


It was good that you started gaming other girls - makes it seem like you've got a lot more options than just her.
Given the situation that's already occurred, I would play it extra cool at the next party you guys are together. Don't go out of your way to approach her - Let her come to you - in the meantime, direct your attention towards other girls, show that you're enjoying yourself and increase your social value.

BUT don't make it so obvious that it looks like you're actively trying to avoid her. If you guys make eye contact, wink for a bit with a playful smile and look away (unless she's right in front of you- in which case you should obviously talk to her).

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Except you presume she's mad about him. The fact is he wants to nail her or go towards a day-2 not soften his ego and give himself a pat on the back for "I'm the one who turned HER down." when she walks away anyway.

There's too much ego patting for PUA here. We say "NEXT her" to soften the blow to our egos when something clearly isn't working out. We say "Just pass her off as if you're not interested" and she walks away anyway yet we can keep our ego intact by saying to ourselves "Well, I wasn't that into her." You need to grow up and accept that sometimes a chick just isn't into you.

Likely scenario here is you tried turning it around on her and she walks away anyway like she did and disappears without making an effort, isntead you've tried to be the cool dude who acts like he doesn't give a shit. The reality is you need to be dominant. Women react well to dominance, they don't want some passive pussy telling them "Well i'm not that into you." They want a bit of force. A one night kiss isn't going to invest her to the point that she's going to give up on her own shit tests. A shit test is to see if you're a cut above the rest of those losers. If you were in a relationship, sure, you can turn it on her but you're not. You just met the girl and only kissed her.

OP, you should have just been c/f then grabbed her and kissed her again, escalated sexually and not let her get away. She didn't want to go, she wanted you to make her stay. In this scenario she's not going to turn around and wimp out because you said "Well I don't care about you/like you." she's going to leave anyway and be stubborn. It's a shit test, it's not a stand off. To pass the shit test you needed to be physical, joke about it and get her interest higher so she couldn't leave you without wanting to meet you again. After you've gotten her interest high you take her number at the end of the night and be confident about it. Don't be a bitch.

If she's kissing him, she's got a degree of interest in him. She may not be head-over-heels crazy about him RIGHT NOW, but that's why people learn how to build attraction.

I'm all about dominance ( the vast majority of PUAs are), though keeping the OP's situation in mind -the opportunity to grab her like an alpha has come and gon. In my personal approach, I may pop off one of the responses I typed earlier- then quickly escalate the kino. He needs to recalibrate his strategy for the next meeting. Unless he's a master of the game, I doubt the guy can approach this girl a second time and not come off as a little needy.

Also- everything I typed about talking to other girls is with the goal of DHV, not NEXTing her or moving on. The target remains the same - the strategy has changed. It's not about ego-saving, it's about showing her that other chicks are vying for his attention. If he's willing to lose her, she will be more apt to vie for his attention - because she doesn't already have it.

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I don't agree with that. Different situation maybe but first time meeting some chick at a party and only just kissing her? She's going to walk away unless you've seriously DHV'ed already and gotten her hooked on you. If it's just a kiss and she isn't bothered taking your number or giving out hers there's not enough interest there. She's still shit testing you after you've closed her. Either she's DTF and wants to be pursued or you've left a poor impression.

What you said about kino is essentially what I said: laugh off her shit test, grab her and kiss her again, escalating kino. Get her more interested and invested in you. Before you said to deliver a line as if not to give a fuck and let her walk away.

Also, wouldn't going up to other girls after you've already scored your target be a bit too late to demonstrate DHV? You should be doing this before you close your target. Once you've let her walk away after her shit test there's no chance she's going to come back up to you later in the night because she's seen you with other women. She's either going to ditch you completely(Which she did) or hook up with another guy.

So little update, I haven't seen this girl since the party...apart from last night where this happened (it sucks)

It was my friends birthday and we all went out clubbing (girl not with us) now birthdays are the only exceptions I make for alcohol and just get fucking pissed out of my face and this is one of the rare circumstances where I remember what happened.

So I am pissed at the bar chatting to another girl. I turn around to walk away and BAM there is party girl right in my face. Me being a drunk douchebag do not recognise her. She gives me a hug annnnnd

Me: Who the fuck are you? *I assumed it was a friend so they would have gotten that I was joking*
*she pulls back looks confused/startled*
Her: Oh...yeah...like I don't remember your name.
Me: Oh its you, hey <name here>
Her: Urrrrh like okay.

Then just walks off. Dont see her for the rest of the night. Good night tho!

Is this now a lost cause?

ALCOHOL IS YOUR FUCKING ENEMY.

Worst thing you can do now is be apologetic. Just play it off like it wasn't a big deal because let's face it: It wasn't.

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