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PostPosted: Wed Oct 16, 2013 11:07 pm 
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what are the best topics to learn to improve your game that are not obvious like opening/negs? i mean the more deeper things like frame control ect? all suggestions welcome please


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PostPosted: Thu Oct 17, 2013 1:47 am 
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Tough question. Breaking down what "game" is I would define as attractive and productive behavior. Behavior can be faked, but in order to have good and sustainable game, it needs to become genuine. And since our behavior is almost entirely influenced by our beliefs, experience and understanding, that's what you would want to focus on.

But yes, those are very broad topics, so my suggestion is to place most of your focus on your beliefs, specifically your limiting-beliefs that hold you back when it comes to women. Just like therapy, the deeper you dig into your emotional baggage, the faster you can get work on eliminating it. Some common issues men have would be: feeling defective and unworthy, mistrust or abandonment issues, social isolation / alienation, believing their own needs aren't as important as others, Excessive emphasis on gaining approval from other people at the expense of developing a secure and true sense of self. So on and so on.

I think it's extremely important to focus on what it is that got you to this point, what is holding you back and
WHY. That way you attack the problem at it's very roots instead of simply dealing with the symptoms of it that creates needy or poor behavior.
An example of this -- for various reasons, I grew up with really poor body-image that made me feel defective, unlovable and unworthy of attracting women. This resulted in me socially isolating myself and not developing social skills. When I got into the PUA community I focused on improving my social skills (which is important) but I completely ignored why I ended up so shitty in the first place. Even when I changed my behavior enough to get some results, you can never entirely hide your true self forever, so eventually I would sabotage myself. Once I started respecting myself, feeling attractive and got over my limiting-beliefs did I actually have a satisfying dating life.

So I guess what I'm saying is a great topic and focus is replacing limiting-beliefs with healthy ones.


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PostPosted: Thu Oct 17, 2013 2:47 am 
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PostPosted: Thu Oct 17, 2013 7:52 am 
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what are the best topics to learn to improve your game that are not obvious like opening/negs? i mean the more deeper things like frame control ect? all suggestions welcome please
Everything is important. Improve and learn as you go. Don't study it too much and just go out and talk to girls.


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PostPosted: Thu Oct 17, 2013 2:43 pm 
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that was really useful! i never really thought about the importance of fixing current issues i have with myself. i only thought about learning new things. thanks man


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Social calibration. All the tiny in-between elements in an interaction. How you voice should be, how your body language is presented, it's the timely phase to escalate...for example.

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