Hey guys,

Possible shit test?

Essentially she's a FWB who's visiting friends in another state. She had a really horrible conversation with an ex and wanted someone to talk it over with. I occasionally do something cute, so I said “Wanna come over and cuddle?”. This is obviously a joke as she's so far away right now, but I thought it'd be comforting for her. She said “I'd love to x”. Later on she said “Isn't there any other girls you could cuddle up to right now?”.

I didn't know whether this is a shit test and she was saying “Haven't you got someone else that can do that for you?”

or.. her being insecure and asking “Am I the only one you cuddle with?”

I said “I have girls I could cuddle, why?” to which she said “Well, aren't there hugs as good as mine?”

I presume it was some kind of shit test so punished her by leaving abruptly. She seemed upset because I didn't do my usual goodbye, and presumed I was mad at her or something. I told her it was fine and she messaged me this morning, everything seemed fine. She's a girl with LSE, but I've never been sure if it's all an act or not. I guess I'm wary to validate her too often because I get the impression that's what her ex's did and hence why she got bored.

Any thoughts?

you portrayed yourself as a playa... how's that gonna help you get her?

I know, I fucked up somewhat. I thought she was trying to say "Why don't you try someone else?" so I punished her. It was a weird question for her to ask and I didn't know what to say. I guess I was trying to avoid saying "Yeah, but I want a hug from you". I thought that was sound too needy, but I guess I should just have been honest about what I wanted.

It's all in the delivery.. it seems like you slept with this girl already... you already "won", you don't need to keep playing games with everything. It's ok to do and or say something nice for a girl every once in a while. I would think that is common sense.

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We've slept together. But fucking her wasn't just the goal. PUA is more than just getting laid, it's keeping the girl. I'll take your advice on board.

Thanks for the replies you dirty bitches.

Yea, this is what I was answering.. PUA is about more.. but not the PUA you are using in this situation. You need to have some balance; you can't just be an asshole all the time.

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