how do you need to behave when a girl who's chased you for the longest time gives up?

ive been in this situation with a past gf of 3 years who eventually walked off with a chump with a supplementing personality. i did everything wrong until it was too late.

now im here again, a girl that chased me for a year before i even committed to her, head over heels for me, a girl who was so turned on by my indifference,told me i was the best sex shes ever had,the list goes on, she was completely in love with me.

within the year before she was courting me i continued sexual relationships with a few other girls which she was unaware of....atleast as far as i know.

i warned her a relationship with me would make her grow sick eventually....but we tried it anyway and now here we are. she feels unappreciated.

she felt she begged me to do everything,i wasnt calling her enough,didint want to go to her friends weddings, didnt hold her hand, etc etc..................it all took emotional toll on her
(cue the bruno mars song)

were taking a little break now (one month so far) and im spending it wisely in the company of other women.
shes still texting she misses me so much....has initiated multiple booty calls...and yet still wonders why im not breaking down like she is.

but the past few days were very rough on her and i wasnt there for her....i really feel at this point she is slipping away..... in my eye, she doesnt feel in love anymore

and whether shes out fucking other guys doesnt bother me, im confident enough not to worry about such things....what bothers me is that i might loose her for good. she is my Madonna, the only girl ive cared for beyond sex in years.

so now, how do you behave when the indifference that made a girl fall madly in love with you, is the same thing that made her sick of you?

do i break up with her?
implement no contact right away?
do i implement jealously?
kiss her ass and make her really feel special as i feel but do not show?

This is up to you. I wouldn't really be asking these questions to other guys who don't quite understand the situation. My advice for you is the following, though.

If you break up:
Don't feel guilty just because she's given up - if you weren't really reciprocating then this was bound to happen. Feel good about the fact that she will get over it and find someone who really, really likes her and can show it.

If you stay together:
First examine if you REALLY like this girl- to me it sounds more like you were semi-guilted into having feelings for her rather than this being a spontaneous kind of thing. If I'm wrong, then work on spontaneity in the relationship, take her out on dates, make it a game again rather than taking her for granted. Easier said than done.

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A relationship shouldn't be played out like this mate, a girl wants to be appreciated and loved.
I think many people get the wrong idea when they end up in a LTR, they mostly remain the same person they were before. Often resulting in a 6-7 month sexual relationship, eventually the girl cant make the connection she's looking for and they'll drop you.

It doesn't mean that they learnt you not to care to lose something, that you shouldn't care to lose it in your relationship, it's a whole different world.

For example:

You meet a girl, she realises you're a fantastic guy with lots of humour, you're confident and you dont care about losing anything cause there's only to gain.

You have a LTR, You stick with being the fantastic guy with lots of humour, you stay confident, but you show this girl you care for her, take her out, hold her hand if she wants to. BUT, you have to let her know by your actions, that you can still walk away with no damage done because there's still options open for you.

1) Do you like the girl?
2) Do you like her so much that you don't want to be sleeping with other girls?
3) Based on how the relationship has been so far, do you think you will still not want to be sleeping with other girls in 6 months time? (Or do you get the feeling the relationship is doomed, she just annoys you and you're just staying together for the ease of the sex etc.?)

Answer those questions. If you answer yes to all 3, then tone the indifferent stuff down a bit and actually make an effort with the relationship. You shouldn't go completely lovey-dovey and be writing love letters and singing to her under the balcony and stuff like that, but if you actually want a relationship with her, it won't hurt you to put some effort into things like making a phone call every now and then. This sort of stuff you need to do when you've been together for a while and want to actually make a relationship last.

If however, you answered no to any or all of the three questions, then break up with her, for her own good.

preston you are correct...initially was was guilted into this...but now thats shes gone i miss just having the girl i actually care about

mayhem making great points i guess im just naturally stoic.. and have trouble being directly emotive with anyone let alone a girl i care for

7000, those are good questions to ask
YES.
NO.
and NO.

maybe im really not mature enough for a solid relationship, but i do love this girl on both a physical and emotional level....however there are times im annoyed, bored, or just horny and i get tempted to stray.

i seriously have a Madonna/whore complex.... this girl is the only girl i care for in the loving emotional sense...and the other women, i just want to use purely for sex... which is why im in this predicament and im afraid ill never grow out of it

i dont understand the whole 'i actually care about her' thing youre doing. umm...yeah...you spent 3 years of your life in a relationship with her, you probably care about her.

i think you need to figure out what you want. and i know that kinda goes without saying and is pretty obvious and all, but you clearly still dont know what you want out of all this, so figure that out first and then go for it.

also, it sounds like you have some unhealthy attitudes towards women and relationships in general. now thats certainly a pretty common thing for guys who find this community, but still you have to solve them. it just sounds like youre more concerned with playing games then focusing on what you actually want from your relationships.

it might help to actually take a break and see how you feel after that. its not a break if youre contacting each other and still hooking up. go a couple of weeks or a month with no contact at all and see if you still want to be with her after that. if not, end it. do it for her, it would be the best thing for her. even though it would hurt her in the short term, eventually she can move on and find a guy who is going to treat her the way she wants.

Are you the same OP who commented about that panamian girl or something that you kept being an asshole to and complained that it didn't work and when we posted to tone it down you still continued and continued to complain it didn't work? In your case, I would say, try your hardest to kiss her ass as hard as you possibly can because judging by your posts here, your attempts to be cocky/funny/alpha etc. just make you come off as a dickhead.

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it seems like you are actually not very indifferent towards this girl at all, indifference is not caring either way,

both hate and love are the opposite of indifference, even making this post demonstrates the lack of indifference you have towards this girl, you can be completely caring and charming and give lots of attention to a girl and at the same time remain indifferent to her and if you will ever see her again or if she does/doesn't do anything with you or for you, you can also be completely cold and anti social with someone, showing them no attention and never giving them any form of validation and at the same time find that person to be extremely important to you

you haven't gone too far with ''being the indifferent alpha'', you have more gone too far with just faking something you are not in order to get a girl, you are doing your best to maintain an act and now looking for new acts to supplement the old act that is going stale, you gotta just have some confidence in yourself and that you are worth being with as you, not as some fake actor because it's only a matter of time before you can't keep up the act and if a girl can't see that the real you is worth being with then oh well, there are girls everywhere and other girls will