Hello everyone! I'm really in a bad situation, for the first time I really don't know what to do! I went out with a girl for 2 week, we saw us 6-7 times. I kissed her, no more. However I heard from some her friends that she was really happy to stay with me. She liked me before I asked her to go out. So all was going to reach a happy ending but she suddently disappears. I called her and she told me (I had this information from some common friends too) that a boy she likes is calling her and wants to see her. She likes him since one year ago, but in all that time they had spent with he didn't kiss her neither one time (someone told me also he could be gay). So at the first I was upset, but after all we decided to continue to see us with no claims (only sex), and for me she could clarify the situation with this boy (she would do it as soon as possible). From that calling I didn't call her again. I saw one time her with this boy and an other friend, I get she to offer me a drink, also she didn't have money and we went to a cash machine. After that a friend of her told me she didn't clarify the situation with this boy (he's not kissing her also). Now I don't really know what to do, if call her or not. Maybe she has really a mania for him. I could casually meet her, given that she hangs out at the same places of me during night. I'm 28 and she's 25. I apologize for my english, that's not so good. Thanks for helping!

I think your only and biggest problem here, is that you are allowing her to ''eat of 2 walls'' without any negatives. You're just saying hey, as long as you stick around me, do what you please!

You will have to start making decisions, do you want a girl that claims to have interest in you, but dates other guys. No thanks. Tell her what's up. Tell her in honesty that you are interested in her, but if she's playing this game, then you are not interested in playing along. You have your own life, girls out there that want you and have respect for you.

You are considered an option by this girl. That's a not position to be in

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This is pretty bad. It's very hard to get a girl who likes a different guy. With that said, in the future, you need to be much more aggressive. You are 28 and she is 25, and you have been out 6-7 times and only kissed? I can't even remember the last girl I didn't bang after 3 dates, let alone 6-7. Usually it takes 1-2. You need to escalate more physically. OBVIOUSLY THIS DOES NOT MEAN FORCING YOURSELF ON HER OR ANYTHING LIKE THAT. But, you need to be more forward, touch her more, and arrange "dates" at your place. If I do not close on the first date, I will generally ask her to come over on a second date. Yes, that early. If she says no, then I sometimes will be ok with that and do something else, or sometimes I ok something else but then cancel on her so she gets the message that if she wants to be with me, she is going to need to be more sexual and fast. A third date it is a must for me that she come to my place. I will not accept any other date. If she isn't ready by then, then I failed on the first two dates to sufficiently impress her and it probably won't end well anyway.

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