Let me start by saying that I'm not interested in the kind of girls that would fuck anybody. I'm not interested in girls that are wild- what some would call sluts, whores, fools mates, etc. Don't get me wrong, I have no judgement against woman like that. There is nothing wrong with wanting to have sex and lots of it. It's just that I personally feel more comfortable with good girls - girls that aren't so sexually experienced and wild. And that's partly because I feel like I'm less likely to end up with an STD. Now, of course I always wear a condom, but still.

So, having said all of that, my real question is about having friends with benefits. Instead of having a relationship with one girl and only being able to have sex with one girl, honestly I'd like to be able to have maybe two or three friends (that are girls but not girlfriends) with benefits. I'm not about being a man whore, I'm not greedy- just two or three would be alright. Then I would have more of a variety. As an analogy, nobody wants to have to eat the same food everyday.

Now the problem I have is that I'm attracted to good girls and it seems like once you show interest in them, it's like they always want to get serious, and I don't want to get serious. I don't want to be boyfriend and girlfriend. I just want some nice girls that would like to just be friends with benefits. And it isn't just about the sex. I really would enjoy their friendship as well as the sex. But how, oh how do you make that happen? How do you set it up so that they're okay with just being friends with benefits? How do you keep them from wanting to get more serious? I can see that being easier with girls that are easy, but how about a good girl?

I seen a video on Youtube where Adam Lyons was breaking down one of David Wygant's pickups and at one point David was talking to the girls about how nice it is to meet new people and basically how he thinks there is nothing wrong with hooking up with someone for sex without it having to turn into like a serious relationship. Something like that - I don't recall exactly how he worded it. But, it was like the way David addressed the issue to the girls - he manages to get them to agree with his view. And I don't think it showed the whole thing. But, Adam said that he always has like that same type of conversation with girls that he picks up. So, it's like they have learned how to set it up from the very beginning. But, how do you do this? What exactly do you need to say to girls to get them to be cool with that so that you can take things in that direction?

Thanks

Well i am not a reputable source in this forum yet and I am not a PUA by any means but what i have found that works for me is in the very beginning usually the first date I go for a full close than alot of girls tend to get attached and for instance girls like to get into relationships and i kinda just tell them to keep it casual i don't ever label ANYTHING. for me it's almost like leading them on.. I make sure to be very aggressive on every encounter and within a couple encounters it just becomes the norm to come over and fuck.

That is just my experience, i have not ever done this with a HB10 yet but it doesn't hurt to practice on 7's they seem to be alittle more needy than 10's

I was hoping to get more responses to this question. Anybody?

1. Less talk, more action. Over talking will kill the vibe. I've lost 3 FWBs because I talked too much. For instance, if you want to bounce her from the john to the bedroom, just lead her there without saying a word. I've lost one FWB this way because I've said, "Let's go to the bedroom." And then she said, "What are we?" Bam. The end.

2. Always give her the best fuck she can possibly have. During and after fuckfests, do not ask for any validation like, "How did I do?" "Did you come?" "Was I awesome in bed?" When they wake up, girls will talk and say something like, "What did you do? My boyfriend/husband never did something like that." The best answer in this case is something like, "Cook some breakfast for us." If she complies, then you fucked her brains out. You can even give her other compliance tests like, "Fuck. I think I dropped my $50 bucks at the nightclub. That's my fare money." When she gives you taxi fare, that's all of the validation you'll need.

3. Be nonreactive. When she talks about any kind of drama, ignore. No reaction. Do not smile. Do not listen to her while nodding your head. If she takes it too far, say, "I'm leaving." Cut. Leave. No follow up words, nothing.

If you want more, ask Wolfwood for more pointers. The 3 pointers above work for me in FWB situations.

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no they dont. theres plenty of girls out there who will be fine with what you want. just be honest and own it. if they ask just tell them that youre not really boyfriend material. that will usually get the point across.

keep in mind that when you do this you will lose girls after a while (especially more if youre just starting out with this lifestyle and in the process of figuring out how to manage it). they will likely leave you and settle down with a guy who wants to commit to just them. so you end up in a position of constantly having to chase and replace which can get tedious. thats the nature of that particular beast, though. best of luck.