I was told this tonight by my girlfriend: "We have sex too much, but it doesn't seem like it when we do"


last week said "We should see each other one time and not have sex...but I can't help myself I always want to."

I have been banging her for a year, and she initiates almost as much as I do. EVERY time we see each other we have sex like 2-3 times but we do other stuff too and talk, ect.

She said this tonight as I am fingering her and she is loving it...

what the hell gives? is her anti-slut kicking in from what she hears, or do I suck in bed?

I used to get the same from my ex. She always said that sex with me was amazing, but she wanted to just hang out more, talk, do stuff...
As far as I can tell, your gf likes the sex with you, but is a bit concerned that the emotional component of your relationship might fall short. I don't really think this is ASD, rather her being sincere to you. My suggestion would be to hang out in public places where you can't have sex, and do something both of you enjoy. She'll get what she's missing in the relationship, both of you get to hang out with each other (and I assume you like that too), and most likely you'll still get to have sex after you get back to your place.

Bring the romance back into your relationship. Seduce her again and again.

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~ASmooth

It's definatly not a red flag, I've been in a similar situation.

Me & my girl used to have sex non-stop at the beginning of our relationship, but she became more fond on me by time. eventually the sex went from each day to once every 2 days. I thought that it was a problem aswell, but all that really happend was that we got closer, our connection became stronger and she told me by herself that the sexuality is less because she felt emotionally attached to me.
I didn't let it affect me, just stayed being a worthy boyfriend and got what i wanted.

Wow !! I am amazed and after reading this post. Carry on dude !!!

ive gotten this before too. basically your gf just wants to know that you like her for more than just sex. now to a lot of guys, thats a retarded thought. because you spend lots of time together and you really care about her so obviously youre with her for lots of reasons other than just sexual ones. but some girls get like this occasionally. maybe theyre self conscious?

the best thing to do, like somebody already suggested, is to take her out somewhere and do something fun that doesnt involve sex. its best to make it seem like your idea rather than something that youre doing just because she brought this up. so maybe wait a couple of days first and do it spontaneously. it could be something as simple as pick her up, go shopping at the mall for a couple of hours, get some ice cream then drop her off back home with no trips to the bedroom.