Alright I have oneitis for this one girl and in the past we had a few arguments because of stupid junk. I am an AFC in case you didn't already guess. I figured out I was pretty much her ego boost.

One day she messengers me and asks me rather angrily if I am mad at her because according to her I had been acting weird lately. Probably because I wasn't being a fool and chasing her around anymore. I figure I'll just use this as an exit and said we always fight and maybe we should take a break from hanging out til after Christmas. (Understand I had it bad for her and if I kept hanging out with her I would always be in the oneitis rut). She sent me an email saying pretty much that she wouldn't ever make an effort to hang out with me. stupid me I know, but whatever it's done at least so I thought.

I deleted her but not blocked her from messenger. Out of sight out of mind works for everyone else out there with oneitis by the way.

Anyways like the next day she leaves me a messenger that she had one more thing to say to me (conversational cliffhanger, that I didn't bite on). And tells me that I am a great guy and that she admires the fact that I am taking time to find myself (which I didn't say I was doing just away from her). I didnt respond, I just figured if she had something to say to me she could come and find me.

Next day nothing

Today she messengers me and says she hopes I have a great day then signs off.

What in the world is she trying to do?

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easy bro.... let her go.

Right now, she has no respect for you and you value her more than she values you. Don't use words like "maybe" or "we should probably" .... tell her flat out that you have better things to do with your time. You're problem right now is with perceived value.... maybe she'll come crawling back. If she does, then you've got the upper hand. If she doesn't, then she's not worth your time.

But learn from this... the only reason things got this way is because you allowed her to perceive your value as lower than hers. Just don't let that happen again and you'll be fine.

You are absolutely right on all accounts.

Initially I did have the upper hand and then I just wanted things to go so well that I let her take it.

Interesting comment I find useful with oneitis although I don't know if it is true or not.

With 6 billion people in the world and half of them being women. You have a better chance of getting hit by lightning 3 times then finding the "one."

Anyways thanks to everyone who has and will leave more advice for coping. I find that when you have more girls in your life it is probably way easier to get over one. I mean we arent even dating and I am obsessing which is so weak. So go out and sarge.

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She see's you as a friend. I suggest using her as a pivot. Don't lose the friendship you will regret it like I still do. Real good lady friends don't mind being pivots, but once you hit on them its over. Pivot her, and start hitting on other girls while she watches. Have some fun your young, dumb, and full of cum. The thing I am starting to notice now, is that I wish I was damn 15 all over again. I wish I learned from other peoples mistakes. I got killed twice with the damn LJBF bs.

My guess its too late. She sees you as a friend not as love interest. One of two things in my humble opinion. Either dont' hang out with her anymore or you'll be pining away from her or convert her to a friend and have her help you get chicks. I am willing to bet that you have never shown interest in another woman around her? Warning though. Don't convert her to a friend (although she already is) unless you can take her having a bf and telling you her bf problems. If you can't take it, lose her completely.

In the past I've been told by women I like 'we can be friends' and I tell them 'No we can't. Because I'll always want to sleep with you'.

If you can take it, convert her to a friend and when you're somewhere tell her you're checking out that girl by the door but not sure if she'll respond. I've had female friends start a conversation with her 'where did you get that blouse, its nice' and after a minute or two say 'oh, forgot my friend was here with me, hey Arsenal, I'm over here!' This new chick knows we're just friends, they can tell but being competitive sometimes wants to take me from the girl or sometimes thinks 'if she thinks he's cool enough to be a friend, then he must be a guy worth being with'.

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