From what I gather picking up the phone is much better at asking for that date than texting them, but how do you go about it? Would you call them up and ask them straight away or have a bit of fluff talk first?

Also how do you go about asking? Would 'let's go x place tomorrow night for a bite to eat at 8' be much better than 'fancy coming to x place tomorrow with me?' as it's more dominant?

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I think you need to break this down first find when she is free don't ask are you free on Thursday ask for her schedule of when she available ideally she will give you several times.
Pick the time and date you want to see and tell here where to meet you and when. If she said she was free on Wed, Thurs and Friday try to put it like well I am busy on Thursday and Friday So meet me at blah blah on Wednesday at 8.

That’s how I would go about it take the questions out of it make it more assertive.

Raven

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Cheers, do you think it's best to phone to ask (tell!) or text?

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Be straight to the point. You are not building comfort, you are asking to go on a date.

So I asked one girl out for a date. I called her up and here's how the conversation went.

Me: "Hey, how you doing?"
Her: "Good, you?"
Me: "Yeah I'm good. Next Monday I fancy doing some bowling and I'd like you to come with me.."
Her:"Err, okay sounds fun. I'll have to let you know."

At this point I didn't really know what to say so I just said OK and told her to let me know by the Saturday. What did I do well here (if anything) and what could I have done better?

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When you have limited choices of women then these questions can get really hard and tricky. Just have two ideas in mind. Go out and invite some random chicks. That way when you ask the girl you really like, you have practice, a back up plan and it's not a big deal to you.

When she is the only one and you are planning it all perfectly it can be awkward.

Also, don't underestimate the power of just owning the situation and telling her whats' up. That way if she doesn't change her schedule or agree, you can tell her she 'failed' and you are moving on to someone more worthwhile. If she fights for your attention, then you have a winner my friend.

Hang in there. Don't give up. Stay positive. You can do it. Believe in yourself.

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Alright I'm going to give you guys my biggest secret that I've come up with to solve this problem. When you are talking/texting the girl complain about how busy your week is be like "I have x y z and the rest of the alphabet to do." They will normally respond with "oh that suck's, I have nothing to do this week" or "im so busy the only day I have off is Wednesday." That's when you respond "perfect I have Wednesday off too were definitely hanging out!" You found out what day she is free without asking her and since she said it is free she can't come up with an excuse to say that she's busy. Works like a charm.

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Best way to get a girl to go on a date with you is to talk about something fun that you would both like to do. Example. I like to take girls to this big trampoline place called skywalk. I will mention it to them and tell them all about it and how much fun it is. The girl gets all excited. Then I say, "hey, you know what? We should go sometime!" Be enthusiastic! I have been on a few dates going to that place and we always have a great time.

The whole point of a date is to give the girl an "experience." You lead the date. Never ask a girl what they would like to do. They really don't like that. They want you to take the lead and to show them the way to a fun time. And never use the word "date" when you ask a girl out.

Good luck!

Cheers guys been a big help!!

Appreciated!

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No interaction type is better than another. The concept is: Get access to a female in whatever way you confident enough to go for. Different routes are used based on a guy's skill and a girls willingness to give you access.

Email is the safest. Safe for her as she can easily block you. Safe for you as you have plenty of time to think of what to write. Typically it is slow and time consuming. You can write longer messages and really engage her imagination. If done well you can go straight to face to face.

Text is fairly safe. Safe for her as she can just ignore you or block you. Less safe for you as you have to think on your feet. You have to be pretty good to go from text to face to face. Usually a call will need to happen first. Messages must be short and witty. Harder to engage her mind, but easier to get dirty with her. It's also easy to get stuck in being a text mate.

Calling is more risky for both. It's challenging because you have to engage her without being able to see her body language. You have to do most of the work.

Now to your example:

Me: "Hey, how you doing?"
Her: "Good, you?"
Me: "Yeah I'm good. Next Monday I fancy doing some bowling and I'd like you to come with me.."
Her:"Err, okay sounds fun. I'll have to let you know."

It's a bad idea, nearly always, to ask a girl "how you doing?" You should open with something that will put her back into the mindset of when she gave you her number.

Something like, "Hey, I've been dying to ask you something for two days. What was the name of your cat? (or some other equally retarded question that is loosely related to your previous conversation). She'll probably ask why, then tell her some completely preposterous story about how you worked at animal shelter or found a lost kitten that needed a name or whatever.

Second of all, 'fancy doing some bowling?" Really? Let's just say, probably doesn't sound that interesting unless you know she loves bowling. Better to just ask her to go to a bar/event/walk in the park. Anyway, the banter from your opening will set the stage for the date. If you have her laughing and re-engaged with you then you can ask her to come watch paint dry and she'll say yes.

If whatever interaction you are having with a girl is boring then moving to another level interaction will be suspected to also be boring. If whatever interaction you are having is sexy and exciting, she'll be the wanting you to lead her to it.