I've been talking to this girl for a little less than two weeks now. We shared secrets and we both agreed that we find each other attractive to the point that we would sleep with each other. We talk more on FB messages though since our phone companies are different and we can only see each other twice a week on campus. However, I know that i'm not the only one who's trying to get with her. There are at least 2 guys who's after her. One I can tell she finds really annoying and the other one is a real competition.

My problem with her is that she keeps flaking on me. We make plans together but she never follows through in the last minute.

The other day we were suppose to go see a talent show with a bunch of our friends. She said she was going to it a little later than everybody with me. Just before everyone was about to leave she said she'd rather go with them. I was bummed out a little bit. But I got a little more upset that she sat and talked to the competition through out the whole show. She said hi to me during the break but I kinda brushed her off since I didn't eat for 9 hours straight. I get really cranky when that happens. When we were about to leave the show I didn't go with the group to eat.

The second day she mentioned that she's going to hang out with the other guy cause he asked her to. She said she might not anymore because she got her period. I don't know if they did or not but I got really insecure when she told me about it. I told her to have fun with her new bf.

The second time I was suppose to spend time with her tomorrow morning at her place before our friend's little get together party. She texted me today saying she can't hang out with me in the morning since she'd rather go to the party early than be a little late with me. Reason because her friend is going to be there early. I'm a little bummed out about it.

I want to know if the flakes are intentional, she's just playing on me, or i'm just a loser who's too needy. I know she got legit reasons to not hang out with me but she really did like me, wouldn't she make time for us?

Tomorrow i'm going to be at the party along with the competition. I know he will try to talk to her the whole time and knowing her, she might bounce back and forth between me and him. When all of us are together she's a lot more touchy with me but what should I do? Should I talk to her also just as much as the other guy? Get her attention as much as possible more than the other guy? Ignore her a little bit and pay attention to the other girls? She wants me to go but should I? I was only going to go because we were supposed to hang out first then go together. I haven't kissed her yet since we always chill with a bunch of people but I want to do it asap to make things clear.

Noob here. Go easy on me please.

Acting very beta bro. If you chase a woman like crazy, expect her to run. You should be making plans that you want to do. For example with the talent show after she texted you saying "hi what are you up to"(meaning she's bored, I assume she initiates otherwise its hopeless) you could have said "I'm excited for the talent show." If she responds saying "ohh that sounds fun"(meaning she's interested) That's when you say "I take it you want to go." It makes it sound like she is asking you out. If she says yes discuss the details and only text her once the day of. If she hits you back up she's in otherwise, assume she's going to flake. Since you were doing something you wanted to do its not a big deal. Also make sure to throw some C&F into the text's so its not so dry but remember she's hitting you up.

If you go to a group activity and she isn't giving you attention start flirting with another chick pull her into the group and get the guys to engage the other chick(unless this other chick is hotter in which case you just escalate until you fuck her). This way she looses value in the group and she will try to gain it back and bud in, that's when you neg her(do it in a way where it seems like you are just being nice to the new chick). Afterwards turn back to the other chick and keep talking to her, this will make the girl you like jealous and she will get frustrated that this other girl is stealing her attention. That's when you pull the girl you like into the group making her feel good. She will associate this feeling with you and will stick with you.

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He summed it up with that. Game other girls it will keep your mind off of this chick who doesn't really value you at all.

Here's what happened last night.

I was one of the earliest one there. When the girl came in, she came up to me first before anyone else. Mind you, I was all the way across the room and there was about 30 people in this house. It might be nothing but I took note of this. We talked a little bit but I was talking with a couple of bros also. When we weren't talking or if she was talking to the competition, I was gaming other girls. When she was by herself, I gamed one girl that she doesn't know consistently. A couple of hours later I was playing the piano when she came up from behind me. We had a mini conversation. She asked me why I didn't talk to her as much. A minute later we started kissing. We left the house and went to the back where we hooked up some more. Almost got a little more when someone walked in on us.

A day later (today), i'm going on a date with one of the girls I gamed yesterday. All is good, I guess.

I think you handled this perfectly. Realize that especially in college girls and guys both are going to be seeing multiple people at a time in most cases.

If she fucks you over or blows you off, just stop talking to her for a while. Don't be her little bitch that she can control and see when she wants (this has happened to me).

Always keep it practical. Push the limits and stay positive.

Positivity is key.

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