Hey I need advice. I've never been really good with the ladies. I just came out of a one year relationship in which I was acting really AFC. The loss prompted me to work on myself as well as my skills with women.

I actually seduced a girl about a week ago using some material from "the game" and some original routines. I also met a farking hb8 the other day that was showing an array of IOI's, I n-closed her and have a coffee meeting Tuesday (I had to pick that day because I'm spending this week in another state.)

Now my problem is my ex has just contacted me saying she misses me and that she hopes its not the end of us(she was also the one that ended it). I replied with a really AFC remark so I wouldn't hurt her feelings. Now I'm feeling a strong case of one-itis, like I'm meant to be with her but she treated me like shit most of the relationship I can easily remember the bad she put me through, but when she starts being all sweet and insecure I farking melt. How can I get over this. I would really appreciate any advice.

If she ended it, she has the upper hand right now. She is going to play this card over and over. Don't give in. Give it some time before she gives a confusing array of signals and next thing you know you are broken up again.


Edit: But then again, that is a years worth. Just ask yourself if you were happy with her and what are the causes for your breakup. Get your head on straight before making your decision. The problem is that you state you were AFC during that year so it is hard to believe that you will even last a few months after getting back together.

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See that's what would happen during the relationship yet I kept going back.

This time I have no intention of getting back with her, I told her she needs to figure things out and we can talk in a couple months, but I plan on friend zoning her. I feel really AFC.

Is there a way to use like NLP on myself to loose this feeling of one-itis

That last post helped a little, I will just give it a few months to make any decision. I'll give myself time to learn the game.

What should I do in the meantime should I cut her off?

Interesting situation. My advice to you is to let her go. This is a vicious cycle, and it won't end. Why not? Because after a year or so of being with her, you've continuously let yourself get emotionally abused by her. And has she learned not to take you for granted? No, because each time you came back running to her. She will never learn, and she will continue to emotionally abuse you. Are you prepared to continue putting up with that? If so, then by all means go ahead and return to her.

But if you want a better life, one where the girl will NOT take you granted, then what I would suggest is to continue gaming the girls you have in play now. Aren't you curious to see what others have to offer? And as for your ex, yes -- cut all contact. Ignore her permanently. This may be challenging in the beginning because obviously you still like her. But the blow will be softened once you find another girl to treat you better than your ex ever did.

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Before she can respect you, you need to respect yourself.

No. The problem with some people nowadays is that they want a quick fix for everything. I can give you NLP techniques but that is probably going to last you short-term and isn't really going to do anything for your character. Develop your character first and then you can get involved in a relationship again. Why am I telling you to build yourself before involving yourself in another relationship? Because you aren't at that level of independence and you rely on other people, in this case your gf, for approval.

My advice is to live out your life and cut the threads on people that don't appreciate you. If you are like this with this girl, I feel like other areas of your life are also in need of revision. Once you get that down, you will be set to be involved in a healthy relationship.

Mr. A

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Thanks guys, the advice was really helpful. I'm so tired of what she has put me through. she contacts me telling me she misses me after breaking up with me. There are millions of women in the world, one will no longer hold me back.