I have been seeing this girl for a little while. We have hung out 4 times in about 3 weeks that I have been home. Each time we have hung out for at least 3 hours and the last time she was over, about 4 days ago she ended up staying the night. We are both 18, she is a virgin and lets just say that I found the game early and its worked for me, so I know what I am doing. She is a hb9 and never hooks up randomly with guys unless they are dating. Well I have changed this, I have an ideal fwb going on right now and let her make the jump to a relationship, just so she was more invested... For the record I do like this girl but I have plenty of options.

Last night I went out to a party with some buddies and made that known to her just to increase my value etc. We had talked a bit thru the day, I was working on setting up another day to hang out and we had kept on talking throughout the day a little bit. I figured something was off when she started becoming a bit more distant then she told me she had a lot on her plate and I asked if it was to do with me (at this time we were texting while I was partying it up..) She said it had a little bit to do with me; here is the text convo.

HB9: Okay, but you asked for it! I had my heart really really broken in the fall..like super broken. Him and I have remained good friend though, because there was obviously a lot of feelings still involved with everything. Now he wants to be together again, and I just don't know what I'm supposed to do. That's the short version

Me: Ok

HB9: So thats my life. Idk how I feel about anyone or anything. So i'm just never going to get out of bed deal?

Me: Ok

HB9: That's all?

Me: Maybe

HB9: ?

Me: How do you feel? (I know this was a dumb question, I am excellent at building attraction and SNL's etc, but never deal with relationship stuff so I was sort of dumbfounded and asked a few dumb questions...)

HB9: confused. You?

Me: Thinking

Hb9: You think, I'm going to try and sleep as I leave in 5 hrs. haha Im sorry to mix everything up, this is just what i do. Idk what simple is!

Me: Well I respect you as a person

HB9: I respect you too

Me: I will respect whichever decision you make (I never told her I liked her outright yet, I just called her cutie and we would fool around a lot when we hang out)

HB9: I really don't know what my options are.. What do you want?

Me: I am starting to think highly of you

HB9: I really like you too! Geez, why do I have to screw everything up all the time. I'm sorry, ignore me and have a good night. My feelings haven't changed

Me: About who (I thought the last part of her sentence was vague)

HB9: You

Me: Wait what do you mean?

HB9: Nevermind

Me: I like you too ( I shouldn't have ever said that outright, i was panicing)
Me: I am re-reading this.. I am confused?

No reply from her ever since and its been over 12 hours

I am sorry for sooooo much text, I just really don't know what to do or handle the situation, I want an LTR from her. My game consists of cocky/funny, mysteriousness and vagueness.

She textee me just now 14hours later.

Hb9: just nevermind im usually confusing

you messed up right when you said how are you feeling

then i respect you as a person? wtf?

ignore that ^

"HB9: I really don't know what my options are.. What do you want? "

^ By that I think she wanted you to make it clear what you wanted from her, ie. a relationship or fuck buddy..


In my opinion if you want it, go get it. Her ex fucked up and lost her now your in the movie and you take her. She's a women and from what I know she'll be all confused and dazed and whoever takes her will get her.

Long story short In my opinion, you should tell her something along the lines of: forget your ex, you gave him a try he broke your heart now he wants round 2. what you think is gonna happen ? I'm not the kind of guy who's gonna sit and watch. I'm gonna take you and treat you good.

^ Do this in a non-needy way.

I've been through something similar to this before and I regret not being a man and going for what I wanted. She's a woman she's gonna be all confused and shit until someone takes charge.



Oh and all this is just my opinion, do whatever the FUCK you wanna do.

sure, ignore me if you want to become this chicks fucking therapist. you had nothing to do with her ex or their breakup you shouldnt sit there and let her tell you her feelings and sit there and console her like a goddamn, well, therapist.



HB9: Okay, but you asked for it! I had my heart really really broken in the fall..like super broken. Him and I have remained good friend though, because there was obviously a lot of feelings still involved with everything. Now he wants to be together again, and I just don't know what I'm supposed to do. That's the short version

Me: Ok

HB9: So thats my life. Idk how I feel about anyone or anything. So i'm just never going to get out of bed deal?

PUA: deal, we can stay in bed allll day together as long as you at least let me get out to go to the bathroom/make a sandwich/etc.

she sent you a smiley, she is confused. use this to your advantage, turn it around, be quirky/funny, put an actual smile on her face so shes not thinking about her ex and what to do with him she is just thinking about how fun you are and how you make her happy.