Doodes..
i have developed one-itis over my long distance girlfriend.
she is very sweet and she cares for me as im the same towards her.

but heres my problem.
my girl only stays with me because she cares for me. I start to do all the things "right" you know what i mean (mr nice guy, always calling texting because she likes the attention. she is in control she doesnt send me anything she only replies and she feels good about it). i dont bust her balls whatsoever because im afraid she will not "get" it or she gets it wrong and starts off with other guys. I cant really bust her balls from a distance you know, i dont have the non verbal magic thingy. it has to go by text :s or over the phone in the weekends because shes not at home during the week.

i confessed to her, like quite emotionally (not crying, but very sad) that i was afraid of losing her. she promised to me that she will try not to cheat and if it happens she will tell me. I believe her.

I promised the same, but i dont believe myself. This sounds cruel but the more i miss her and realize im going one-itis the more i start to look around for other girls to ease the pain.
I dont actually do anything just flirt, mostly non verbally. and it does work i mean, i get IOIs and i hook them a little and then i let them go again its really innocent though


have any of you got some advice for me, but not dumping her.
I really dont want to lose her, we really fit together and we are both in love. i start to turn her off by acting good and afc.. she still cares a lot though but im afraid of getting in the LJBF zone.
I would like to flip this around again, but i need some help.

btw: my latest tactic: i confessed my weakness yesterday to make the weakness less strong (she would find out eventually cuz guys are open books to women and i would only be hiding something for her). She helped me and was there for me, she says she always will (omg i love that girl) i text messaged her a lot today because she helped me through yesterday. she replies by calling and hang up, which means i care about you.
I texted her a lot today, i will do it less and less during the week and eventually i will stop. this makes her think and contact me and stuff. This is what i think, she will think: whats wrong im losing power..
damn this pua shit is cruel :p
but i hope she wont respond by; i need the attention ill find it from other boys.

what do you think ?


best luck to you all with girls


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heres some suggestions

1.) if your gonna be a semi-pick up artist (full pick up artists are like mystery, style, juggler etc.) you can't have that emo attitude.
2.) We all have depressing moments, but you have to hide it if you want any girl(you can show feelings but not as emotional as your doing now)
3.) Drop her, and work on other girls, For all you know she can be doing guys all over the place since you barely see her, im not saying she would but since you don't really even see her, its just not a good relationship anyway from a long distance
4.) confessing to her is one of the worst things, i have a friend (a HB) who just broke up with her boyfriend, and is dating a new guy, and she told me how her ex boyfriend was very sad she broke up with him, and told me he was a fag because he was being all emo, so point is never confess unless you really know what your doing
5.) if your having a relationship, save all the chatting and interactions for in person only, texting is not good
6.) if she only calls then hangs up, shes just leading you on, if she really cared, she would of at least say hi and chat for like 5 mins

These are just my suggestions, don't take em personally, and i hope they help you out.....

Alright man. I am going through a one-itus of my own. I gave everything to this girl and she returned it, until she transfered schools and we sorta broke it off. Long story short, she isnt over me(in my opinion) and im not totally over her. But life is going to go on, and if she knows she can string you along for attention she will. There are other girls and luckily I found one myself just today. Anyway, she was a girlfriend and a best friend and I have learned you cannot think that she wont hurt you. So, if she wants to play the game, just stop talking to her, it WILL hurt if you care about her, but I promise it worth it if it isnt right, you will be happier than when you were with her.

Now, you say "She will TRY no to cheat on you" and "you dont want to lose her" Why? If she is saying that, that means she is setting you up to let you down. You tell that to someone you care about. What about this girl do you like? Is she the most amazing girl ever and you want to marry her? Or is she just a filler to a deeper hole that lies inside of you. It sounds like that is wat you are to a eachother, bandaids. The hardest part of my break up was not that I wasn't with the girl anymore (Becuase at this point in our lives it was best to atleast break) but that someone who I cared about so much and claimed the same back, could the next day be so cold.

So I had to ask myself. Why am I in love with a girl who is totally wrong for me. Part is human nature, part is likely things that you will find only in yourself. Now you could go F close some girl you dont care about and it might make you feel better, or possibly even worse depending on how bad your one-itus is. But let me leave you with this, if you are looking for someone to be in a relationship with, take what you learned from this one and move to the next. You now probably know qualities that you do not want in a girl, and therefore you also know what you do want, so go find one you like and have fun in the meantime. You will enjoy your life alot better being with a girl who isnt long disntant and doesnt pull bullshit.