PUA's and Venusian artist? help a newbie. We are at a comfort zone locked in a kino and a comfortable silence after a DHV routine. She notes the silence.

If kino is dinamic - good. If static (just a hug or holding hands) - bad.

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This is how i veiw silence. Comfortable silence that is.

If its kino heavy, and no one is speaking, dont.

If its just going for a walk and holding hands or something, silence is good in short pockets...but dont let the silence drag on.

Silence, even comfortable silence, isnt good when it takes place for a consistantly long amount of time. (this is assuming that your not doing something else like watching a movie or something.)

If a girl points out you not talking, there are a few reasons for this.

-You need to calibrate how much you speak...you over did it and now she doesnt understand why your still not talking up a storm. In this case slow down your words, take 15 sec breaks in between ideas. Think of it like when you used to have to give a 5 min oral presentation at school and you had 2 mins of material so you spoke real slow and tried to make it last 5 mins.

-You havent had enough to say (possibly compared to another time were you had a reasonable amount to say). If you have been to quite, or comparitivly less talkative then a time before, this seems bad to a women. They will ask themselves why your not speaking to them as much, and will assume its because of something negative.

-Your comfortable with it, shes not...So you reach a period of what you think to be comfortable silence and she asks you why your not talking. Its possible you didnt build as much comfort as you thought. Amp up comfort more, and make vocal pauses in between points so that small periods of silence seem natural and comfortable.


I cant think of other reasons off the top of my head but here are some reasons.

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I am glad I hit this question up, so that i get feed back like this, thanks people. I know there was something wrong with the comfortable silence. Reason why is...if she is board, it was my fault.

Thanks again for the breakdown....I will work on that.