My biggest sticking point is sarging in an uncommon pick-up location with lots of people i don't know around.

Example:
I was on the subway, i notice a cute chick sitting across from me, a 7.5/8.

I thought of exactly what to say as a good situational opener as she was reading a book called "The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-time." It's a good book and I've read it so I was gonna say "Have you got to the bit where he runs away from home yet?" Not a bad opener in hind-sight.

However, the train was kinda busy, not totally jam-packed, but busy enough that we were both a bit boxed-in in our seats by people next us, you know. And everyone was being totally quiet and not talking the way strangers always are on public transport.

I knew the second I opened my mouth and spoke to this girl, everyone would look up to see what I was saying. And since she was the only HB in sight they might've figured why i was talking to her all of a sudden. Also she might've been embarrassed with them staring and listening.

So yeah, i chickened out, left it too long and resigned myself to not talking to her. Has anyone got any ideas how to counter this problem I have with sarging in front of watching, silent strangers?

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Bad, but understandable.

You need to adopt a "don't give a fuck" attitude. Why care about dozen of other people lookin' at you. Don't think too much.

People in train were bored; they were looking for some fun. They will watch EVERYTING. Now, you could make yourself good looking friendly guy, who knows what to do around women. If she blows you, she will look like bitch. You will look good, because you got balls to do it. And she surely won't think "what jerk this is." No, 'cause your opener was good - how many men read that book? And how many actually know about it so much? And, how many have balls to get there and talk? NOT MANY. So, just go there and talk.

I had the same problem. Then I adopted the "I AM THE PRIZE" attitude. It bursted my confidence - I was reading the ebook and it suddenly blew into face. You the prize, not her. Simply trust it. That is enough.

You chose her because of her book (and her look, but she is 8, she won't think that way). She has the opportunity to be with you. And you are at least some entertainment on her way to work.

Everyone in train will think "this guy's cool." But you anyway don't care about their opinion. Just do it.

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You don't know the future, you can't change the past. The only thing that matters is THE CURRENT MOMENT.

Just realise that the only reason everyone else isn't talking is probably the same as yours, and you shouldn't care or be afraid to break the silence, + you had a really good opener because it was totally relevant and the fact you know about something intellectual as the subject of a book would start you off with the right impression too.

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It's Better To Burn Out Than To Fade Away...

yeah i was pleased with that opener, but i reckon you could use it about any book whether you've read it or not. then just say "oh is that a different book? what is it then?"

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Paetar & smoothz are right in saying that people in subway will look at anything and that these people are thinking the same thing as you...

The truth is that they will cheer you on inside if they knew that you are chatting up a stranger at daytine in a train, because they don't have the guts to do so themself. I have chatted up girls at daytime at places that are not normally assiciated with picking up and when i guy finds out that I did that, they normally are amazed that I would do it and they congratulate you even if they I blow it.... (looser thinking... as they are chicken shit).

However if you approach confidently, then these people in public gathering will actually think that you know her from before because of their looser mindset (AFC mindset), which will tell them self that you must know her besauce they think that nobody is brave enought to pick up a stranger at daytime in a train and you will win extra points with the girl imediately if you do that.

So the next time you see someone in a trian station or anywhere else... just approach... use the 3 second rule once you make eye contact.

Its good that you can think spontaniously about a opener and improvise according to the situation. It is essential that you develope this skill sooner or later in your sarge, but it is not essential at the beginning... but it seams that you have it so good on you.

Gamed